154. How to Break Toxic Relationship Patterns, Heal Your Worth and Become Truly Detached with Sabrina Bendory

In this episode I sit down with Sabrina Bendory, bestselling author and relationship coach whose work has reached tens of millions of people, to talk about something so many of us know intimately — the cycle of chasing the ones who don't choose us, while pushing away the ones who do. Sabrina shares her own decade of toxic relationship patterns, dating narcissists and emotionally unavailable men, and exactly what it took to finally break free — including what she calls her "Summer of Me," the moment everything changed. We talk about where the void actually comes from, what detachment really means, how approval addiction keeps us stuck, and what it feels like in your body when a relationship is finally healthy.This one is raw, honest, and deeply practical — and I think it is going to meet a lot of you exactly where you are.Connect with Sabrina:sabrinabendory.comwww.instagram.com/sabrinabendorySabrina's book: https://amzn.to/4cCcKZpWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Being detached doesn't mean you're detaching from people. You still care, you still want love — but you are detaching from outcomes." — Sabrina Bendory"The stink of desperation poisons everything. You have to channel that energy into something else, otherwise there's just too much at stake." — Sabrina Bendory"I am so much more than whether or not some avoidant guy chooses me — and once I made that shift, everything started to click into place." — Sabrina Bendory"In a healthy relationship you can be who you are, express your needs, set a boundary — and you're not afraid you're going to blow everything up." — Sabrina Bendory"When you're too attached, you don't have the feeling of I know I'll be okay. You feel like if this person doesn't choose me, I'm going to implode." — Sabrina Bendorysomatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, attachment healing, toxic relationship patterns, narcissistic abuse recovery, inner child work, emotional regulation, relational healing, self trust, self worth, codependency healing, people pleasing, approval addiction, detachment, embodiment, survival mode, burnout recovery, choosing yourself, deep within podcast