157. Narcissism, Codependency, Triggers and the Five Pillars of Healing with Michelle Chalfant

In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Chalfant, holistic therapist, life coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model, whose podcast has surpassed 11 million downloads and whose work has helped thousands of people heal codependency, emotional wounds, and relationship patterns at the root. Michelle shares her five-pillar methodology for living as a healthy adult — covering how to own your reality, build self-compassion, feel your emotions, work your triggers, and set boundaries that actually stick — and we go deep on narcissism, codependency, why we keep attracting the same people, and what it actually takes to change the signal we're putting out. She also shares practical tools, free resources, and one of the funniest and most grounding stories I have heard in a long time.This one is rich, practical, and full of permission to do this work in a way that actually makes sense.Connect with Michelle:https://www.theadultchair.com/https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfantFree Course: https://courses.theadultchair.com/offers/z2vYXUwr/checkout Adult Chair Book: https://courses.theadultchair.com/the-adult-chair-book WORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Codependency is an identity we form when we're younger. Other people become our oxygen to exist in the world — and we don't even know we're doing it." — Michelle Chalfant"No one can trigger you. You are triggered because you have an unconscious belief inside of you that's being activated by them." — Michelle Chalfant"When you can say I wonder why this is happening for me — not to me, for me — you pivot out of the victim seat and into empowerment." — Michelle Chalfant"Boundary scripts do nothing if you don't feel worthy. You've got to set boundaries chin down — fully embodied, believing what you're saying." — Michelle Chalfant"Self-compassion is the Kryptonite to shame. You have to reach for that voice, cultivate it — it is a conscious choice." — Michelle Chalfantsomatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, inner child work, emotional regulation, narcissism, codependency healing, people pleasing, attachment healing, self worth, self compassion, triggers and trauma, relational healing, boundaries, adult chair, embodiment, survival mode, burnout recovery, deep within podcast, Michelle Chalfant