157. The Narcissist Will Use You to Woo: How Manipulators Borrow Your Goodness to Get What They Want

Hey, Survivor! In today’s episode, we uncover a tactic every survivor of narcissistic abuse needs to understand: The narcissist will use you to woo. Using your name… your reputation… your kindness… your credibility… even your faith language, scripture, or values — narcissists will borrow any part of your goodness to soften their manipulation and influence others. This is called borrowed credibility, and it’s rooted in coercive control. I share a real story from the murder trial involving fake emails, spiritual guilt language, and reputation abuse — and we explore why survivors often miss this pattern until long after the relationship ends.  We’ll dig into the psychology behind this deception and L.E.A.N. into healing. This is a validating, grounding, empowering episode for anyone who has ever been used, misrepresented, or manipulated by someone they trusted. You were the good one. You were the credible one. And the fact they borrowed your light shows how bright you shine. Know who you're dealing with.  Know who you are. 💚Lesley Book your call here. Become a Vibrant Survivor insider here. Let's connect on IG!  Share today's episode and tag me @thevibrantsurvivor Contact [email protected]