158. Breaking Emotional Patterns with Riana Malia

  What if the patterns keeping you stuck in love, relationships, and self-worth aren't flaws to fix, but unconscious stories your mind and body have been replaying for years? In this conversation, I sit down with Riana Malia, identity architect and board-certified integrative neurosomatic practitioner, to explore how unresolved emotional experiences shape the way we love, trust, communicate, and move through life.  Riana shares her personal journey—from childhood abandonment and betrayal to surviving an abusive relationship and rebuilding her life. Together, Riana and I unpack why so many high-capacity women feel trapped in cycles they can logically recognize but emotionally can't seem to break. We explore the difference between awareness and transformation, how the unconscious mind drives our behaviors, and why healing isn't about endlessly retelling the story—it's about clearing the emotional charge beneath it. This episode goes far beyond mindset work. It's a conversation about identity, nervous system healing, emotional freedom, forgiveness, and learning how to finally create a life that feels safe, aligned, peaceful, and deeply your own. You'll learn: Why high-achieving women often repeat the same relationship and emotional patterns How childhood experiences quietly shape adult relationships, confidence, and self-worth The difference between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind—and why it matters Why traditional self-help and talk therapy can sometimes keep people stuck in the story How unresolved emotions become patterns of anxiety, overwhelm, resentment, and self-sabotage What it means to "clear before you create" in healing and personal growth How frequency, thoughts, and emotional conditioning influence what we attract into our lives Why forgiveness is more about freedom than reconciliation A practical 72-hour exercise to interrupt negative thought loops and begin rewiring your mind This episode is especially for women who feel emotionally exhausted from repeating the same cycles in relationships, career, or life—and are ready for a different way forward. If you've ever wondered, "Why does this keep happening to me?" or felt stuck between who you've been and who you want to become, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, empowered, and hopeful. Because healing isn't about becoming someone else. It's about clearing what no longer serves you so you can finally become fully yourself.     Show Notes:    CONNECT WITH RIANA Website: https://rianamalia.com Podcast Features Page: https://podcast.rianamalia.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rianamalia/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rianamalia/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@rianamalia TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rianamalia121 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RianaMalia Extraordinary Love Index™ (Free Diagnostic): https://www.quiz.rianamalia.com Brilliance Brunch Event Page: https://thebrilliancebrunch.rianamalia.com   GET ARIVEE'S BOOK: Your Time To Rise: Unlearn Limiting Beliefs, Unlock Your Power, Unleash Your Truest Self https://www.amazon.com/Your-Time-Rise-Unlearn-Limiting/dp/B0D7FNPHS2   GET A SIGNED COPY AT H.O.L.A. BOOKS: https://www.hola-books.com/products/your-time-to-rise?_pos=1&_sid=e3d7f9db4&_ss=r   Grab your FREE Boundary Toolkit: 3 Proven Strategies to Reclaim Your Time, Boost Your Energy and Feel in Control in just 7 Days. Click here to get it now.Grab more FREE resources and learn more about Arivee's coaching programs: https://www.ariveevargas.com/ Instagram: @ariveevargas LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/ariveevargas/