158: For Real This Time: Entering the Child-Rearing Era (and Quitting the Mom Comparison Game)

Gina (perinatal fitness trainer and birth doula) and Roxanne (certified nurse midwife) declare they’re officially done with pregnancies and fully in their child-rearing era, while joking about “perfect bookend babies,” potato-like newborns, and toddlers who won’t stop poking the baby’s face. They share what helped them accept closing the baby chapter—realizing you can’t get the same baby back, acknowledging limited attention/bandwidth, and enjoying the return of personal freedom (like running, puzzles, and finally reading with eyeballs). Roxanne reflects on how confidence grew by dropping “supposed to” rules (tracking everything, waking sleeping babies) and making family-specific choices like safe bed sharing and breastfeeding without a cover. They unpack how social media highlight reels fuel comparison, emphasize that different parenting styles can all work, and end with teary reassurance—if you worry you’re not a good mom, you’re probably doing a great job!00:00 Child Rearing Era Begins01:01 Podcast Mission Intro01:50 Done Having Babies02:56 Letting Chapters Close04:44 Family Complete Mindset07:53 Harvey Newborn Reality11:27 From Potato to Toddler13:33 Running Returns Freedom16:45 Manifesting Perfect Angels18:19 Element Flavor Tangent19:37 Growing as a Mom20:34 Second Baby Reality Check21:37 Breaking Instagram Rules22:03 Sleep Shifts and Tracking25:23 Confidence and Boundaries28:52 One to Two Survival Mode30:27 Accepting Family Size32:14 Finding Yourself Again35:12 Routine with Four Kids35:58 Comparison and Highlight Reels40:29 Different Moms Different Choices43:43 Youre Doing Great Mom46:29 Tears and Wrap Up-------🎉 Grab Your Copy of Training for Two → https://amzn.to/3VOTdwHYour go-to guide for prenatal fitness, birth prep, and postpartum recovery.👇 Start Preparing for Birth Today📥 Download our free Birth Prep Circuit Guide → https://mamastefit.com/freebies/prepare-for-birth-circuit📥 Grab our free Pelvic Floor Prep Guide → https://mamastefit.com/freebies/prepare-your-pelvic-floor-for-labor/Learn how to relax and lengthen your pelvic floor to support a smoother labor and pushing phase.💻 Explore Our Online Programs:Whether you're pregnant or postpartum—we’ve got you covered with expert-led fitness and education:🏋🏻‍♀️ Prenatal & Postpartum Fitness Programs🎓 Childbirth + Postpartum Education Courses→ https://mamastefit.com🤱 Just Had a Baby?📥 Grab our free Postpartum Core Workouts → https://mamastefit.kit.com/coreStart reconnecting with your core and feeling strong again—safely and confidently.———📲 Follow Us on Instagram for Daily Tips + BTShttps://instagram.com/mamastefit———✨ Shop Our Favorites:⚡️ Electrolytes we love → https://drinklmnt.com/mamaste🌿 Supplements we trust – 20% off with code MAMASTEFIT → https://thisisneeded.com/ginaandroxanne👖 Maternity clothing we actually wear – 10% off with code MAMASTEFIT → https://rstr.co/lovesteady/3500