158 - What causes us to blame ourselves (or others)?

As we continue to explore the common thinking errors, the little trip-ups in the way that we think, our episode this time explores Personalisation.  Personalisation happens when we blame ourselves for things that are really outside our control.  We did not plan this episode for our Christmas one, but what a lucky coincidence, as you may experience a little of this over the next few days, so it might be worth understanding what is going on. Graham and Paul dig into what causes us to take the normal to and fro of life and sometimes find meaning and slight on ourselves that was never there, or a least never intended in that way.  How criticism of a project or piece of work can feel like criticism of us, or the people around you laughing are almost certainly not laughing at you. So this Christmas break, the weather is not down to you, and unless you really are one of the few people who decide what is going to be shown on the telly, the fact that there are 200 channels and nothing on, well, that is not your fault either!