16. How to Reclaim Your Sex Life After Kids and How Being Turned on in Midlife Isn’t Dead With Penny Van der Sluys

In this spicy, empowering episode of the Mind Your Mama Podcast, host Lauren Trout welcomes pleasure activist and somatic sex coach Penny Van der Sluys for a candid conversation about women's sexual empowerment, pleasure, and reconnecting with the body. From nervous system safety to orgasm myths, they unpack what it really takes to feel turned on and embodied, especially in midlife and motherhood.What you'll learn:What a somatic sex coach does and how it differs from therapyHow safety and stress impact a woman’s ability to feel pleasureWhy redefining sex and pleasure can transform your experienceHow to begin cultivating pleasure in small, accessible waysThe science behind the clitoris and its role in sexual wellnessHow your menstrual and life cycles affect arousal and libidoThe link between your voice and your vulva (yep, really!)Tips for reawakening desire and sensuality after kids or in perimenopauseThe importance of communication and self-explorationHow stress, shame, and fake orgasms disrupt your body’s trustQuestions answered:What is somatic sex coaching?How can moms reconnect with pleasure after burnout?Why does sex feel like a chore sometimes—and how can that shift?Does the size of the clitoris actually matter?Is porn helpful or harmful to sex lives?What’s a pleasure starter pack and how can I build mine?Connect with Penny Van der Sluys:Website: pennyvandersluys.comInstagram: @pennyvandersluysPodcast: Turned On: Wild, Free and Sexy in Your MidlifeFree resource: “10 Tips to Turn On” (available via her website)Join her free challenge: Bringing Sexy BackMentioned in this episode:OMGyes.com (education on women's pleasure)Book: Honest Sex by Shana JamesTed Talk by Shana JamesConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @laurentroutrn_coachEmail: [email protected]