160: What If He Secretly Returns to Pornography? How She Can Know, And 5 Ways He Can Rebuild Security

One of the biggest fears that women have in this process is that her husband will return to pornography since she won't know about it. She’ll bring down her wall, start to trust him again, and then the other shoe will drop and she'll be devastated again. How can she know if he is still stuck in his pattern? If there’s been dishonesty in the past, how can she know if he is telling the truth or not now? It's critical for a husband to demonstrate change in a way that helps her to believe him again. It's very discouraging for him when he really is trying and is making progress, but no matter what he does he feels down when she doesn’t believe him. In this episode I'll share how you can approach this together to help build security and confidence that things really are different as a result of the new actions he's taking.   For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.