161: Why Your Apologies Aren't Working (And What to Do Instead)

In this episode, Lilly breaks down the repair process that actually works using Terry Real’s Feedback Wheel. She explains the two biggest mistakes we make when trying to repair after conflict.This episode is for you if you feel like you’re always apologizing but nothing ever gets resolved, if conflicts drag on for days instead of clearing in minutes, or if you’re tired of walking on eggshells in your own relationship.In this episode, you’ll learn:* The 4-step Feedback Wheel for clearing conflict fast* Why adding your own grievance during her repair attempt backfires* How defending your intentions makes your partner feel invalidated* How to own your part without losing yourself in the process* Why dealing with one problem at a time clears conflict faster* How to end repair conversations without making them worseThis episode is for you if:* You feel like you’re always apologizing but nothing changes* Conflicts drag on for days instead of getting resolved* You want to clear fights faster so you can get back to enjoying each other* You’re tired of walking on eggshells at homeConnect with Lilly:* Join UNDEFEATED (FREE 3 Day Intensive for Men, Dec 8 to 10, 6pm CT): Learn how to lead your relationship and handle conflict without losing yourself. https://stan.store/lillyrachels/p/undefeated* Work 1 on 1 with Lilly: [email protected] Get full access to Growth Over Easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe