163: How to Soften The Pain of Betrayal Due to Pornography Use

I once worked with a woman who was completely overwhelmed because her husband continued to struggle with pornography use. She was at her wits end. She felt like a ball of anxiety always waiting for the other shoe to drop and could never really feel comfortable in her skin and safe in the relationship. The moment she started to let her guard down it just so happened that he would mess up again. They had been in this loop for the past 10 years of their marriage. When she reached out, she asked me this specific question – how do I handle it so that this doesn’t bring me down and it takes a day or week to deal with it? We had a conversation that day, and I shared with her a couple of thoughts that helped to soften the pain of betrayal she was feeling. I want to share those with you as well so you as a husband or wife, listening to this can know how to find or provide some relief as you’re working on repairing things.   For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Click here for info to work with me directly.   Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here   Get access to my trust building workshop: Rebuild Trust Workshop   Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.   Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.