#163 - The Things We Pretend Aren’t a Problem

Send me a text!“I don’t care” sounds confident, but sometimes it’s just a protective cover for something else: if we look too closely at the habit that isn’t working, we might have to do something about it. I’m pulling that pattern into the light with zero shame and a lot of honesty, because you don’t need to hate yourself into better health. You need to tell the truth about what’s costing you energy, mood, sleep, and peace.We talk through the avoidance loop so many of us live in: noticing something feels off, feeling uncomfortable, minimizing it with jokes or excuses, then repeating the same cycle when it comes back around. I use real-life examples like inconsistent workouts or overtraining, nutrition that swings between under-eating and overeating, late-night scrolling that wrecks sleep hygiene, and the identity labels we adopt too fast like “I’m just not disciplined” or “I’m a bad sleeper.” We also unpack a key mindset shift for sustainable wellness: self-acceptance is not the same thing as self-abandonment.Then we get practical. I share a simple framework to create habit change without a dramatic life overhaul: pinpoint what keeps bothering you, get curious about what you’re getting from the behavior, educate yourself on what you’re actually dealing with (stress, recovery, attention loops), and run small experiments you can repeat. If you’ve been stuck negotiating with your mind for months or years, this is your gentle nudge to stop calling it normal and start asking what’s truly optimal for you.If this helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s been saying “I’m fine,” and leave a review so more people can find the show.Follow Well With Michelle on Apple, Spotify or where ever you listen to podcasts!Shoot me an email [email protected]. I would love to hear your questions, answer questions for 1:1 coaching or a quick hello from who's listening to the pod <3 Enjoying the pod? Leave a quick review — it helps more millennial women find us!