#164 ADHD & People Pleasing: Why It’s So Hard to Say No

Are you a people-pleaser… or just terrified of letting people down?Hi! I’m Xena & I am a recovering people-pleaser.I cared so much about what other people thought of me & would prioritise the needs & desires of my friends, family or colleagues, above my own. And by doing this I was telling myself that my needs & what I wanted weren’t as important... Further adding to my insecurities & lack of self-worth.  Overtime I became a chameleon - I didn’t know who I was or what I really liked because I was always going along with everyone else. People pleasing is a pattern of thinking & doing things that prioritise what other people think over what we think - Sacrificing pleasing yourself in order to please others.   In this episode you'll learn: Why ADHDers people pleaseHow this pattern of behaviour impacts our ADHD symptomsHow we've got the idea of "people pleasing" all wrongWhere people pleasing comes from in our brain & how to change it LINKS TO MORE SUPPORT & OTHER GOOD SH*T:*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community *Come hang out with me on Instagram!