167: Sex as Devotion: Fantasy, Yoni Massage & Reclaiming Erotic Safety with Kiki Maree

In this deeply embodied conversation, I’m joined by sexologist, educator, and somatic guide Kiki Maree for a powerful exploration of sexuality as a devotional practice.We dive into fantasy, yoni massage, erotic safety, nervous system regulation, and the unlearning required to move beyond shame, performance, and obligation in sex. Together, we explore how sexuality — when approached with slowness, consent, and presence — becomes a pathway to healing, empowerment, aliveness, and deeper connection with self, lovers, motherhood, and even business.Kiki shares her personal journey into sexology, the impact of poor sex education on our bodies and desires, and why so many women and vulva-holders struggle with pain, disconnection, and low desire — even without obvious “trauma.” We talk about fantasy as both a bridge into pleasure and a tool for safety, how to work with the nervous system rather than against it, and why devotion in sexuality is less about performance and more about listening.We also explore:​Why slowness is essential for pleasure and orgasm​How fantasy can support arousal without bypassing the body​The difference between tolerance vs true consent in intimacy​Why penetrative sex doesn’t need to be the goal​How yoni massage supports pelvic health, boundaries, and embodied voice​Reclaiming sexuality from shame, fear, and cultural conditioningThis episode is an invitation to soften, slow down, and remember sexuality as sacred — not something to fix, perform, or endure, but something to meet with curiosity, compassion, and devotion.✨ A deeply nourishing listen for anyone longing to feel safer, more alive, and more at home in their body.Connect with Kiki MareeKiki Maree is a somatic sex educator, writer, and facilitator specialising in embodied sexuality, body image, and relational intimacy. Her work integrates sexual science with trauma-aware, body-based practices to support safer, more connected relationships. She teaches internationally and contributes to conversations on modern sexuality and embodied wellbeing.Instagram | Website | Exclusive offer for podcast listeners, join The Art of Love Making and use code MONIQUE20About Your HostMonique Carmela is a somatic guide, feminine embodiment mentor, and space-holder for women devoted to healing, truth, and conscious relationships. Her work weaves nervous system regulation, inner child integration, embodiment practices, and devotional self-leadership to support women in coming home to themselves — not as a destination, but as a way of life.Through her programs, community, and this podcast, Monique supports women to soften, deepen, and thrive — rooted in safety, self-trust, and embodied truth.Website | Instagram | Devotional Woman FB CommunityJoin Heart Speaks Here & receive Deep Pleasure as a bonus: https://embodiedlove.moniquecarmela.com/heart-speaksLearn more about The Embodied Woman Experience: https://embodiedlove.moniquecarmela.com/ewe