167: The Surprising Secret to Building Confidence

Most people think confidence is performance. It’s actually presence. In this solo episode, Jay explores a surprisingly simple but powerful shift that can dramatically improve confidence, presence, and communication. Rather than focusing on techniques to appear more confident, he explains why true confidence is built through presence and awareness. Drawing from mindfulness principles and personal experience, Jay shares a practical exercise that helps quiet insecurity, reduce overthinking, and bring your attention fully into the present moment. If you’ve ever struggled with self-consciousness, fear of judgment, or feeling “in your head,” this episode offers a grounded and effective path forward. Notable Quotes “When you're in the moment like this, you're not worrying about what other people think.” — Jay Abbasi “Confidence is about presence.” — Jay Abbasi “Be present, observe what’s happening right here, right now, without judgment.” — Jay Abbasi Resources and Links Jay Abbasi Website: https://jayabbasi.me/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayabbasi/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayabbasi_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejayabbasi/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jayabbasipodcast Get Featured on “Unstuck” Want to have your story featured on “Unstuck”? Submit your story through the link below, and Jay may choose to highlight your story on a future episode and offer you personalized advice on how to overcome any challenge. Submit Your Story Join Us Next Time On Monday’s episode, you’ll meet Ava, a senior designer who feels called to leave her job and build something of her own, but fear keeps holding her back. Jay is joined by Diane Allen, nationally recognized speaker, mentor, and author, to explore how high-achieving professionals can trust themselves, reconnect with their intuition, and step into a more authentic path.