168: Am I A Jerk Now? How to Set Boundaries Without Becoming the Villain

Send us Fan MailIf you've ever wondered, “Am I being too harsh?” or “Will people still love me if I stop people-pleasing?”—this episode is for you. Today, we're talking about the fear that setting boundaries means you're suddenly a terrible person. (Spoiler alert: you're not.) Whether you've swung from self-sacrificing to "spicy:" or you’re just learning how to say "no" without guilt, we’re unpacking why this discomfort is actually a sign of growth, not failure.What You’ll Learn in This EpisodeWhy helpers and people-pleasers often fear becoming "the bad guy"The real reason boundary setting can feel so uncomfortable at firstHow burnout can lead to sharper tones and what to do about itWhy overcorrecting is normal (and not permanent!)How to self-assess your boundaries without shameExamples of clear, respectful boundary statementsWhy disruption is part of healing—and how to ride the waveChallenge for the WeekPractice one boundary this week—even if it’s wobbly. Then take 5 minutes to self-assess. Ask yourself:What went well?What could I improve next time?Did I lead with clarity or frustration?How was my tone?Did I communicate through clarity or emotional confusion?No shame. Just curiosity and growth.Work With MeTired of feeling burned out and invisible? Ready to start being someone for yourself? Let’s build those boundaries—without burning bridges. I currently have a few one-on-one coaching spots available this month. You can schedule a free 20-minute consultation call here to see if we’re a good fit. I’d love to support you in reclaiming your time, your peace, and your power.Don’t Forget to SubscribeIf this episode resonated, be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode. And if you're loving the podcast, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review—it helps others like you find this space of healing and growth.Links Mentioned in This EpisodeJoin the Waitlist for the Empath Course: Be the first to know when registration opens. Space is limited to 15–20 participants.Book Your Free Coaching Consultation Call: 20 minutes, no pressure—just connection, clarity, and support.Follow Me on Instagram for more tools, reminders, and inspiration.Follow Me on FacebookFollow Me on TikTokFollow Me on Youtube