#168: Autistic Play is Real Play

In this episode, we begin a brand new series all about play with a foundational idea that challenges many traditional beliefs: Autistic play is real play. Not practice play. Not "pre-play." Not something that needs to be fixed before it counts. For many years, educators and caregivers were taught that certain types of play were more valuable or developmentally appropriate than others. But when we assume that only certain forms of play "count," we risk missing the meaning behind what children are already doing. This episode explores how autistic play often supports regulation, focus, and connection, and why honoring it is the starting point for building relationships and expanding play in meaningful ways. In This Episode, You'll Learn • Why traditional ideas about "correct play" can limit our understanding of autistic children • The qualities that actually define play, including intrinsic motivation and joy • How monotropic focus can support deep engagement and regulation • Why repetitive play, lining up toys, scripting, and sensory exploration can all be meaningful forms of play • How regulation and nervous system needs influence how children play • Why interrupting play too quickly can lead to dysregulation • The difference between correcting play and joining play • Simple ways adults can gently expand play without disrupting it • How visual supports can offer play ideas without creating pressure • Why people games can be powerful when children aren't interested in toys yet Key Takeaways • Play is defined by its qualities, not by how it looks • Autistic play often supports regulation, focus, and sensory organization • Repetition and deep focus are not deficits — they can represent engagement and immersion • When adults dismiss a child's play, they miss opportunities for connection • Joining a child's play builds trust and opens the door for expansion • Expansion should be offered gently rather than demanded • Visual supports can make play possibilities visible without forcing participation • People games create shared joy and connection even without toys When we shift from correcting play to understanding it, we create space for authentic connection. Try This • Observe a child's play without interrupting and look for signs of enjoyment and engagement • Join the play by copying what the child is doing rather than redirecting it • Model one small variation within the play without requiring imitation • Add simple visual invitations that show new possibilities without pressure • Try people games like peekaboo, chase, or movement routines to build connection • Focus on protecting joy rather than controlling how play should look Small moments of curiosity and joining can transform how play unfolds. Related Resources & Links Autism Little Learners Membership www.autismlittlelearners.com/pod Play and Learn Functional Play and Autism Sensory Play and Autism Play Based Learning for Autistic Children Honoring Diverse Styles of Play Autistic play is not something that needs to be corrected before it counts. It is authentic, meaningful play that often supports regulation, connection, and exploration. When adults begin with curiosity instead of correction, play becomes a space where trust, joy, and growth can flourish.