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EPISODE · Jan 20, 2026 · 8 MIN

169: Vagal Authority: Why You Can't Relax at Home (And How to Build It)

from Growth Over Easy: Relationship Skills for Long-Term Love · host Lilly Rachels

FREE CLASS JAN 27: At Ease: Why You Can’t Relax At HomeSave Your SeatYou’re crushing it at work. Managing teams. Solving problems. Making decisions under pressure.But when you get home? You can’t turn it off.Your wife wants to talk and it feels like a chore. Your kids annoy you because you can’t focus. You get into bed and your mind races through tomorrow’s to-do list.There’s no exhale. No downshift. Just chronic activation.In this episode, Lilly breaks down vagal authority, a leadership concept from polyvagal theory that explains why some leaders command a room through groundedness rather than intimidation. She walks you through your nervous system, explains chronic activation, and gives you a practice you can try right now to start building flexibility in your system.In this episode, you’ll learn:* What vagal authority is and why it’s the new frontier of leadership* The difference between sympathetic (go mode) and parasympathetic (rest mode) nervous systems* What chronic activation feels like (and why you can’t relax at home)* Why being the grounded person in the room is more powerful than being the loudest* How your nervous system becomes the tuning fork for everyone around you* A simple grounding practice to access safety in your body* What it means to “surf through your day” instead of constantly spiking and crashingConnect with Lilly:* Free class January 27th: Why You Can’t Relax at Home (Even If Nothing is Wrong) - https://stan.store/lillyrachels/p/why-you-cant-relax-at-home* Work 1:1: [email protected]* Website: www.lillyrachels.com Get full access to Growth Over Easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe

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