#172 - After Dark: Ben & Dedra Hartman on Open Relationships

Summary:   In today's After Dark episode, Diane is joined by Ben and Dedra Hartman, founders of the supplement company Morphogen Nutrition. Although this episode has nothing to do with health and fitness, Ben and Dedra are in the open relationship and non-monogamy lifestyle. They delve deeper into the topic and discuss what the lifestyle looks like for them, how their relationship evolved into what it is today, the challenges they've faced, and how (or if) it impacted their business.    Key Takeaways:   02:42 - Meet Ben and Dedra Hartman 03:20 - How their non-monogamous lifestyle began 11:44 - Addressing potential issues that may come up 12:51 - How to discuss the "swinger" lifestyle with friends and family 14:14 - Ben and Dedra share their personal experiences with their first shared hookup 17:41 - How their relationship has evolved since their first experience together 19:51 - Having casual solo experiences when only one person finds half of the opposite couple attractive 20:23 - How to create personal boundaries and say "no" 22:54 - Becoming a throuple and the lessons that came of it  26:36 - At what point do you decide to add another person into your relationship? 28:58 - Managing the jealousy and what that looks like 35:32 - Compersion & sexual intimacy 38:03 - What is the "pretty woman rule"? 40:34 - Addressing the sentiment "you're asking for your spouse to cheat on you" 45:35 - How being with other people has impacted Ben and Dedra's sex life 46:56 - Navigating life after sharing their sexuality publicly 52:47 - Extremely helpful advice for new couples who want to enter the swinger lifestyle 1:01:09 - Remember this if you're bringing in a single person into the picture  1:01:53 - Suggested resources for people interested in the swinger lifestyle     Connect with Ben & Dedra:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fitdeeds/ , https://www.instagram.com/morphogen_ben/ , https://www.instagram.com/morphogen_nutrition/  Website: https://www.morphogennutrition.com/      Resources Mentioned:   Sex with Emily Podcast: https://sexwithemily.com/listen/  John Romaniello: https://www.instagram.com/johnromaniello/  Plush: https://plushparties.com/  Rachel Wright (psychotherapist): https://rachelwrightnyc.com/  The Ethical Slut: https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379  Feeld App: https://feeld.co/  Swing Lifestyle App (SLS): https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sls-official-swinger-community/id1449170265  Connect with Diane:   GET ON MY E-MAIL NEWSLETTER HERE Instagram: dianeflores_IFBB_Pro YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dianeflores_ifbb_pro  Ask me anything! E-mail: [email protected]      Work with Diane:   Apply to be on our Competition Team HERE Check out the New Client Offer at Venus  The Goddess Body Project 12 week program Ditch Deprivation 12 week Diet Coaching Program Join the Sensual Dance Movement and feel confident in your skin Get your FREE backstage packing list for competition here     Fuel Your Body with the Goods:   Try Meal Prep Delivery with FitKitchen Code: Diane10  Try this Energy Shot from Magic Mind - Code: BBRadio Visit Titan Nutrition for the exclusive offer for BossBitch listeners *Promo code BossBitch at check out Visit HiYo for 20% off non-alcoholic beverages HERE  Fave Boss Bitch Protein Bars - Built Bars *Use Promo Code: "Diane" at check out