172 | Porn Addiction Recovery: What's Beyond Working the Steps?

There is a common misunderstanding that recovery is a mountain to be climbed—a series of steps, chapters, or weeks that, once completed, allow you to finally stand at the summit and call the work “finished.”   But if you have spent your time checking the boxes of a recovery program only to find that the peace you promised your spouse hasn’t yet taken root, you are not alone.   In this episode, we sit down to discuss the critical, often-overlooked reality that finishing a program is not the end of the road; it is the beginning of the daily life of recovery.   Johnny shares his own journey through the wreckage of porn addiction and adultery, detailing the long road that led to seven years of sobriety. He unpacks the fundamental difference between sobriety—the mere absence of a behavior—and true recovery, which is a life transformed by the daily, intentional application of the work.   We address the husbands who feel they have done enough, and the wives who are still waiting to see the fruit of that work.   Recovery is not a curriculum to be mastered; it is a lifestyle of surrender, honesty, and daily practice that must be lived out in the smallest moments of every day.   Our conversation moves into the “how” of this daily surrender. We outline what it means to truly “work your program” by applying tools like the HALT-BS acronym, the art of naming emotions, and the discipline of making constant corrections and amends.   This isn’t about striving for perfection, but about filling the voids in your life with the Holy Spirit rather than old coping mechanisms.   If you are stuck in the cycle of “doing the work” without seeing the change, this episode offers a roadmap for moving from theoretical knowledge to a living, breathing reality of integrity and healing.   For those seeking to bridge the gap between their current situation and the life of integrity they desire, Johnny offers specialized coaching for men struggling with addiction. You can find more information on his coaching practice, along with resources and tools to help you work your program, through the links below.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💚TIP JAR - If this, or any of our episodes, brought you hope or encouragement, please leave us a little blessing to help us keep our content ad-free! 💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES:   Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married” Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Sex Addiction Self-Assessment Questionnaire    RELATED EPISODES: Episode 43. Our 12-Step Series Wrap Up: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Program Is the Best? Episode 49. Sobriety vs. Recovery After Porn-Fueled Infidelity   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].