172: Why You Can't Turn It Off at Home (Chronic Activation Explained for Men)

In this episode, Lilly breaks down what chronic activation is, how you get stuck in it, and what you can do about it. She’ll explain why you might feel like you’re always on alert, always in danger, always one step away from everything falling apart. And she’ll give you one simple resourcing tool that can help you access safety in your nervous system.In this episode, you’ll learn:* What chronic activation is and why you’ve stopped noticing it* How chronic activation is like being sleep-deprived—you adapt, but you’re still declining internally* Why you feel like you’re always on alert, always in danger, always one step away from everything falling apart* The difference between sympathetic charge (activation) and parasympathetic safety (rest, connection, intimacy)* Why high-functioning men go from highly activated to completely shut down at the end of the day (dorsal vagal collapse)* What resourcing is and how it helps your nervous system access safety* A simple exercise you can do right now to downshift into safety* Why resourcing alone won’t renegotiate the patterns keeping you stuck, and what willFree Download:Explode Shutdown Cycle Field Guide for LeadersIf you get home after work and find yourself exploding at the smallest things, then shutting down and withdrawing, this guide is for you.https://lillyrachels.myflodesk.com/fieldguideBook a Call with Lilly:If you’re interested in working directly with your nervous system to renegotiate the patterns keeping you in chronic activation, book a call with Lilly. She’ll walk you through polyvagal theory and explore what’s going on in your individual system and if nervous system work will help you.https://calendar.app.google/dDeTxAJfjCZQLnzS7 Get full access to Growth Over Easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe