173. The Dark Side of People Pleasing: Why It’s Really About Control

What if I told you your people-pleasing habit was really just a desire to control others?  Typically, this desire for ‘control’ stems from a place of survival.  You learned you needed to show up a certain way in order to keep other people happy and avoid conflict, so that they would keep meeting your emotional needs.  But this coping mechanism is only holding you hostage.  Keep listening as I break down the nuanced dark side of this trait, and the first steps to breaking free.    Ready to lose weight, end emotional eating, and truly enjoy the holidays instead of running around frazzled, in survival mode?  Come work with me.  I'll teach you how to re-regulate your nervous system when you get triggered, meet your own emotional needs, and create a life so good you don't need an escape.  Your next best step is to schedule a free consultation at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule    Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - People Pleasuring and Control(00:02:03) - People Pleasing and Over-Completing(00:10:33) - How I Got Sucked Into Love Bombing(00:15:58) - How to Get Out of Your Karma Cycle(00:16:31) - The Problem of Controlling Others' Emotions(00:21:00) - How to Stop Being the Responsive Person in a Toxic Relationship(00:25:43) - What Emotions Do I Refuse to Feel?(00:27:15) - What I Learned From Recreation This Year(00:34:27) - People Pleasing During the Holidays(00:38:27) - Binge Eating and Relationship Cycle