1736: Let It All Crash Down by Briana Harry of YeMash on Finding The Light in Dark Times & Rebuilding Life

this is optimal living daily episode 1736 let it all crash down by brianna harry of yaymash.com and i'm dustin malik welcome to optimal living daily old or old the show where i read you from articles that i think are amazing with permission from the authors one article a day every single day of the year i'll help you live a more meaningful life and you're on this show that covers personal development or self-help minimalism inspiration motivation all that fun stuff so with that let's get right to it as we optimize your life let it all crash down by brianna harry of yaymash.com when i first started practicing tarot i went into it with a ton of false information maybe not a ton just one big idea that i thought would apply to all the cards they're all literal meaning if i ever pull a death card i might as well start going through my funeral arrangements think beyonce and carmen the hip opera thankfully i came to find that this was far from the case that all the cards have more of a metaphorical tie that you can apply to your real life not to say that there aren't any little elements at all but it's less likely than i thought over the years that's come to be one of my favorite things about practicing tarot how closely it mirrors real life tarot for me is just a tool in eating where my intuition is already doing the work these things come naturally to us the trick is learning to listen and apply some people think that listening to your intuition means 100 clarity anytime you have a question no your intuition still requires that you live that you feel your way through it so it's not always that simple it's the same with tarot you pull a card that card has elements to it that could apply to you and you have to take it from there you find the connection and decide what to do with it remember this is what i learned over time at first i did have my share of cards that really scared me to pull death of course the devil and the ever destructive tower i read about the tower when i read my first book on tarot the first book i picked up was someone's personal rendition of their experience with tarot with that in mind i should have taken it with a grain of salt she described the tower card as what it certainly is a card that represents rebuilding but in order to rebuild something has to be destroyed while there is a positive element in the idea of rebuilding the destroying part really had me shook especially when she spoke on how it connected her when she first pulled it she described a lot of our worst fears losing jobs and homes and irreparable damage to personal relationships and she described it as almost a domino effect like she pulled the card and the next thing she knew her life began to crumble i wanted to avoid the tower after all i love my life my job my friends i didn't have any romantic relationships but i started growing more hopeful than i ever had been in that area so for a couple of years even as i grew to understand how to interpret the cards for myself i was held a little resistance ever seeing that card and i didn't for a long while and then i did my 2020 year at a glance thread on new year's day now if you've been awake for the bulk of this year you've probably made the connection already what a show while i can see how that was a projection for the year at large for all of us it definitely predicted some personal destructing too being furloughed from my job being the biggest thing but i also pulled a card in additional time when asking about the essence of my romantic relationships in 2020 so yeah that happened it's funny because i remember thanking the universe for the heads up and declaring that i was setting myself on a path that wouldn't create that destruction that i was told about that as i came to find was not in my control as much as i shifted my mindset and played the part that i always played to be positively present and attract all the good things this was a lesson i was meant to learn so everything fell apart i was furloughed from my job of nine years and that really created some issues not only financially but internally i had to reckon with who i might be without the shot that i've had in all of my little life i'd also met a guy and he was pretty amazing for the first time in nearly a decade i found myself really being open to being in a real relationship i began to do the personal work that i didn't even know that i needed in order to grow myself as a partner and that was hard it was uncomfortable being vulnerable but ultimately i was glad i had it in me to do i was feeling really hopeful then he told me it wasn't going to work out and i was crushed another layer crumbled this is what the tower was talking about bombs in the foundation of things that i'd built the comfort i felt at my job the way i was growing into romantics it all just blew up right before my eyes i felt like i was laying in the rubble nothing of what i'd built seemed to exist anymore and at first i just sank into these feelings feeling hopeless and lost and like i'd done so much for nothing in this space in real life even with all my practice i wasn't thinking about tarot i wasn't thinking about the tower so i had to find it in me to remember what has to come next intuitively so i picked myself up and started to build once destroyed all things can be rebuilt they can be rebuilt to be better stronger i found the space to be more creative without my job i've been doing things that always existed in my mind but i never thought i'd have the time or energy to do i've been growing my personal business and i've never been so proud as for the romantics while it's bare i've learned to not consider it a void but a place waiting to be filled with possibility it gets lonely but i've never been optimistic about luck i've learned so much gained some experience and i feel really good about what's to come the rest of the world's experience this too even though we're not done with this very wild year and we truly don't know what to expect we've seen some amazing things happen in spaces previously destroyed i've had the pleasure of experiencing people come together in such strong ways so much knowledge has been shared and my favorite so many messages to press on it's been a real ray of light at a time that's felt dark for a lot of us so retrospectively i say to myself and to all of us don't fear the tower don't fear destruction don't fear the fire for the possibilities are truly endless so in order to build what we know will be bigger and better whatever's taking that space up now let it all crash down you just listened to the post titled let it all crash down by brianna harry of yaymash.com negative brianna i'm sure we could all see towers in our own lives at the moment not just because this year's been crazy but at any period in our lives her story reminded me of something i learned in a meditation class like 15 years ago that really stuck with me that we're all wearing lenses you can look through maybe super bright lenses see everything from a positive side that can be good at times but also seeing the negative and growing from that letting things crash down as she said is really important too because also like she said we're gonna become stronger from it life wouldn't be what it is without both and it's impossible to avoid both or just the destruction and likely will create more suffering if you try to something to think about or i also want to mention that brianna started her own podcast it's called your morning message and it's your daily dose of positive intention setting every weekday so check that out it's called your morning message i hope you're having a great friday and i'll see you over the weekend where optimal life awaits