175. How to Be More Confident Spending Time Alone | 5 Things That Changed How I Think About Loneliness

If you've ever felt like a loser for not having Friday night plans or like a "weirdo" for spending too much time alone...this episode is for you. I'll walk through my story first, including the impulsive cross-country move that made my loneliness worse instead of better (IYKYK), and then break down the 5 things that made me feel more confident in being alone and how you can apply them to your life too.Topics covered:👉🏻 Why moving into my first solo apartment in 2023 sent me into a spiral👉🏻 The real reason I moved from LA to Chicago, and why it backfired completely👉🏻 Why you have to stop waiting for your life to start👉🏻 How to build a life you're actually excited to participate in👉🏻 Why you need to stop living your life through somebody else's eyes👉🏻 The difference between loneliness and solitudeReferenced in this episode:👉🏻 153: How to Make Friends as an Adult — https://youtu.be/H2FA7uTSL1w👉🏻 110: Living Alone Without Feeling Lonely | How to Build Confidence by Doing Things Alone — https://youtu.be/0rmaioROGcIGET THE NEW PRODUCTIVITY PLANNER!👉🏻 https://breakyourbudget.com/productivity-plannerSubscribe to the Beyond Your Budget Substack:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/Personal Finance Starter Kit:https://breakyourbudget.substack.com/p/your-personal-finance-starter-kitBREAK YOUR BUDGET RESOURCES:💸 Personal Finance Dashboard:https://breakyourbudget.com/personal-finance-dashboard💸 Basic Budgeting Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/basic-budgeting-template💸 FI/RE Template:https://breakyourbudget.com/fire-template💸 Rent vs. Buy Calculator:https://breakyourbudget.com/rent-vs-buy-calculator💳 TOOLS I USE:💸 Rakuten Cash Back (cash back on purchases you're already making): https://shorturl.at/w0PcH💸 SoFi HYSA (my fave high yield savings account): https://secure.money.com/pr/pa5344bfc4f2💸 Classpass (try it for a discounted first month): https://classpass.com/refer/UKLV6BN026📚 MY BOOKS:💸 Own Your Money:https://breakyourbudget.com/own-your-money 💸 Own Your Career:https://breakyourbudget.com/oyc-book All Other Resources:https://breakyourbudget.com/links👩🏼‍💻 Inquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram (Break Your Budget): https://www.instagram.com/breakyourbudget/📸 Instagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/michela_alloccaa📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@breakyourbudget💸 My ShopMy: https://shopmy.us/shop/michelaalloccaTIMESTAMPS:00:00 — The skill I've spent the last 3–4 years building: actually enjoying being alone06:00 — Moving into my first solo apartment at 28 hit me like a brick12:00 — The 2 real reasons I was lonely, and neither one was about my surroundings15:00 — Why Chicago ended up being the loneliest period of my entire life22:00 — Why you have to stop waiting for your life to start26:00 — Building a life you're actually excited to participate in & the hobbies I picked up35:00 — How I stopped living my life for an imaginary audience37:00 — Why you have to intentionally build community44:00 — The distinction that reframed everything: solitude vs. loneliness47:00 — Why I call solitude a superpower, and why that doesn't mean I don't want connection