175. The Scorecard

In this episode, Steph talks about the concept of the 'scorecard'—a mental tally we keep in relationships that tracks perceived wrongs and rights. This invisible scorecard can lead to resentment, frustration, and a drain on our energy, ultimately obstructing our ability to create meaningful connections and achieve our goals. Steph emphasizes that keeping score in relationships positions us as opponents rather than teammates, which can be detrimental to our emotional well-being and productivity.Steph outlines two major problems associated with the scorecard: first, that it creates a competitive dynamic where no one truly wins, and second, that it fosters 'problem energy'—low-frequency emotions that hinder our ability to find solutions. She encourages listeners to reflect on their own relationships and consider whether they are keeping score. The episode concludes with a challenge to ditch the scorecard and embrace teamwork in our relationships for a more fulfilling life.Stay connected and learn more by signing up for "The Impact Effect" newsletter at stephsaffer.com.