177: The Simulation You're Living In, Why You Keep Misreading Your Spouse, and What Past Wounds Have to Do with It

You are not always seeing your partner as they are. A lot of the time, you’re seeing them through your wounds, your beliefs, and your fears.In this episode, Lilly breaks down how we each live in our own simulation when it comes to relationships. She explains how your beliefs about your partner can shape your perception more than reality, how Terry Real’s concept of the core negative image shows up in conflict, and what you can start doing today to clear the lens and bring more love, respect, and gratitude back into your relationship.In this episode, you’ll learn:* What it means to live in your own simulation in a relationship* How belief shapes perception more than reality* What Terry Real means by a core negative image* How past wounds can cloud the way you see your partner* Why feedback or simple requests can feel much bigger than they are* How childhood experiences can shape the way you receive your partner* Why slowing conflict down helps you see what’s actually happening* A simple practice to start shifting the lens in your relationship* How appreciation and gratitude can help seed more safety and connectionBook a Call with Lilly:If you’re ready to clear the lens and stop living in the same painful relationship patterns, book a call with Lilly and see if deeper somatic and belief work could support you. Get full access to Growth Over Easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe