177: What Most Men Miss When It Comes to Sexual Dysfunction

There is nothing more deeply humiliating or shameful, to men, than suffering from any kind of sexual dysfunction.    You feel like less of a man. You lose your natural sense of masculinity. And it allows your shame to consume your mind and trick you into thinking you'll be laughed at if you bring it up to other men.    But something magical happens when you can talk about it openly:    It loosens the pressure vault and lets the tension in your nervous system relax. Why? Because your sexual wellness isn't just about doing more kegels. In fact, that misses the point entirely.    Perhaps nobody knows this better than today's guest, Michael Hodge.    Michael lived through 5 years of severe pelvic pain, urinary, and sexual issues, which culminated in his wife telling him that she doesn't want to have sex with him anymore.    Since then, he's merged his own healing experience with somatic nervous system practices which saved his sex life (and possibly his marriage). Beyond that, he's helped thousands of men transform their sexual and pelvic health issues too.    Today's episode will transform how you think about - and approach - your own sexual wellness. You'll see why it's a necessary ingredient to your overall holistic health. And you'll leave with weird techniques that can make a significant difference to your connection and sense of pleasure (versus pressure) when it's time to "get busy."    Here's what Michael and I discuss:    Why your sexual health means so much more than your penis or pelvic floor  How bringing more sexual energy into your platonic relationships improves your sexual relationship with your partner  Why the best way to improve your sexual health is by playing more in your day-to-day life    And so much more, including…    Why putting too much emphasis on exercises to address underlying sexual dysfunction can sometimes miss the forest for the trees (1:53)  How Michael's been through the complete ringer of pelvic floor and sexual health dysfunction - and what helped him to recover "down there" (6:43)  A strange connection between "nice guy complex" and sexual dysfunction (10:08)  Why type T personality types usually finish the quickest in bed (and how addressing your nervous system can help you last longer) (11:03)  How somatic techniques can be wildly effective if you're prone to bottling up your emotions (this made Michael cry the most primal cry of his life) (14:04)  The scientific reason why purely mechanical approaches to ED and other types of sexual dysfunction leave you hanging (17:56)  Do you feel "trapped in your body" when making love? Here's why this is a common feeling (22:06)  How to instantly quell any feelings of guilt or shame when you're getting busy (and why this nervous system technique will help you last longer and enjoy sex more) (25:45)  Are you scared that your partner will leave you because of your bedroom performance? Michael's wife said that to him once (and here's how he fixed it for good) (26:21)  How to significantly increase how long you last by doing something that will make you recoil … but it WORKS! (43:01)    Guest Bio:   Michael Hodge lived through 5 years of severe pelvic pain, urinary, and sexual issues. By merging his own healing experience with nervous system practices, he is helping thousands of men to transform their pelvic health. He also really likes dark chocolate and produces euphoric dance music.   Resources mentioned in this episode:    1. Transform Men's Pelvic Health Website: https://www.transformpelvichealth.com/   2. Miachel's Vigor Sexual Strength Program (for ED and PE): https://bit.ly/vigorstrongsex      (Use code MANFLOW to save 15% on Michael's Vigor program.)     3. Overcome Pelvic + Urinary Issues Program: https://bit.ly/overcomepelvicpain     4. Follow Transform Men's Pelvic Health on social media:    Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TransformPelvicHealth    Instagram: @transformpelvichealth   Tik Tok: @transformpelvichealth   5. Man Flow Yoga: Haven't signed up yet? Start your 7-day free trial and see how yoga can eliminate aches and pains better than other types of exercise here: https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7    6. Man Flow Yoga Events: Find the full list of cities we're coming to here: https://manflowyoga.com/man-flow-yoga-events/