179. End Emotional Outsourcing: Nervous System Tools for Women Who People-Please and Overgive with Beatriz Albina

Have you ever noticed yourself scanning someone's face for approval, changing your answer to keep the peace, or realizing you're not even sure what you actually want anymore? In this conversation, Whitney sits down with Beatriz Albina to unpack the habits so many women, especially mothers, quietly carry: people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency. Together, they explore where these patterns come from, why they're actually brilliant survival strategies, and how they get wired into our nervous systems over time.   You'll learn why these habits aren't personality flaws but learned protective responses shaped by family systems and larger cultural conditioning. Beatriz introduces "emotional outsourcing" as a non-shaming way to understand these patterns. They dive into somatic practices, nervous system regulation, the difference between slowing down and checking out, and simple daily ways to reconnect with your own internal voice.   This conversation is empowering, compassionate, and deeply validating. You'll walk away with practical tools and a new lens on your patterns that feels hopeful instead of shame-filled. If you're ready to stop abandoning yourself in the name of being a "good" mom, partner, or woman, and start building safety, belonging, and worth from within, press play.   Here's what you can look forward to in this episode: The concept of "emotional outsourcing" Why people-pleasing and perfectionism are wired into the nervous system How emotional outsourcing is located in the body and nervous system The science behind why we can't think our way out of these habits Tools for regulating the nervous system during moments of activation The significance of daily self-check-ins to reconnect with personal desires and needs. How chronic over-giving and hypervigilance impact long-term health Simple somatic practices that help you reconnect with your body and shift these patterns Reflection question to ponder:  Where can I be a little kinder to myself?   Learn more about 1:1 coaching with Whitney - book a 15-minute Spark Session   Connect with Whitney: Instagram l Website l 5 Days to Less Stress, More Satisfaction l Tend to Your Soul Toolkit l 10 Soulful Journaling Prompts | Electric Ideas Podcast   Connect with Beatriz: Instagram | Website | Book: End Emotional Outsourcing | The Feminist Wellness Podcast