#18 - the LOOOOOOOVE Episode / Dating and Godly Relationships / Valentines Day

LINKS MENTIONED IN PODCAST:THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES by GARY CHAPMAN - https://amzn.to/40XvE5KTake the love languages quiz - https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-languageIntroduction (5 minutes)Opening Theme Music/IntroWelcome Message:Welcome to The Unreligious Podcast—where we spread the love of Jesus without judgment or by-laws, focusing solely on Christ and the Bible.If you have questions or topics you’d like us to discuss, email us at [email protected]’t forget to like, subscribe, share, and review this podcast—it helps spread the word!YouTube Channel: The Unreligious PodcastInstagram: @theunreligiouspodcastHow Was Your Week? (10 minutes) DREWDaddy daughter date Night on fridayDaddy Mommy date night saturday nightCar broke down date and it was sort of a God momentChrisStill adjusting to the big move back to the states and cold temps.It's the episode of LOVE! Any romantic tips for the happy couples?Tonight's Topic: The War on Marriage and Godly Relationships (35 minutes)If you have questions or topics you’d like us to discuss, email us at [email protected] COMMENTS FROM FANs!Here’s an outline for "The Opposite of a Godly Marriage", which explores a dysfunctional, unhealthy, and ungodly relationship:IntroductionDefine a godly marriage (built on love, faith, respect, and commitment).Introduce the opposite: a marriage lacking these qualities, leading to dysfunction and brokenness.Explain the purpose—understanding what makes a marriage ungodly helps avoid these pitfalls.1. Lack of Spiritual FoundationNo shared faith or spiritual guidance.Prioritizing worldly desires over biblical principles.Disregard for prayer, church, or biblical teachings in the relationship.2. Absence of Love and RespectSelfishness instead of selfless love (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 as a contrast).Constant criticism, belittling, or lack of appreciation.Emotional neglect and lack of kindness.3. Poor Communication and Conflict ResolutionFrequent arguments filled with anger and resentment.No willingness to listen or understand each other.Use of manipulation, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive behavior. 4. Infidelity and Broken TrustEmotional or physical affairs.Dishonesty and deceit as a pattern in the relationship.Inability to forgive or rebuild trust. 5. Disregard for Biblical Roles and ResponsibilitiesNo servant-hearted leadership from the husband (Ephesians 5:25).No respect or support from the wife (Ephesians 5:22-24).Viewing marriage as a competition instead of a partnership.6. Lack of Commitment and Covenant MindsetViewing marriage as temporary or disposable.Threatening divorce as a manipulation tactic.No willingness to work through difficulties.7. Worldly Influence Over Biblical GuidancePrioritizing culture, social media, or friends over God's Word.Seeking personal happiness over godly obedience.Justifying sin rather than repenting and growing together. 1 Corinthians 6:16 (NKJV)“Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For ‘the two,’ He says, ‘shall become one flesh.’”8. Unhealthy Family and Parenting DynamicsUsing children as pawns in conflicts.Inconsistent or absent parenting.Setting a poor example of love, faith, and commitment.ConclusionRecap the key elements of an ungodly marriage.Encourage self-reflection and the pursuit of a Christ-centered marriage.Offer hope: redemption is possible through repentance and God’s grace.Now lets look at the BIBLICAL foundations for a relationshipIntroductionEmbracing a New Creation in Christ:2 Corinthians 5:17 (NKJV):“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”Purpose of Godly Relationships:Emphasize that dating and courtship are meant to honor God and pursue holiness.1. Biblical Foundations for RelationshipsPurity and Holiness:1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 (NKJV):“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness.”Commitment in Love:Song of Solomon 8:6-7 (NKJV):“Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm;For love is strong as death, jealousy is cruel as the grave;Its flames are flames of fire, a most vehement flame.Many waters cannot quench love, nor can the floods drown it.”God’s Love as Our Model:1 John 4:9-11 (NKJV):“In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.”2. Practical Guidelines for Dating and CourtshipEstablishing Boundaries:Fleeing Temptation and Pursuing Godliness:2 Timothy 2:22 (NKJV):“Flee also youthful lusts, and pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace, with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”Guarding Against Sexual Immorality:1 Corinthians 6:18 (NKJV):“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who sins sexually, sins against his own body.”Accountability & Avoiding Temptation:1 Corinthians 10:13 (NKJV):“There has not been any temptation that is not common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”Communication and Mutual Growth:Philippians 2:3-4 (NKJV):“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”Go to church togetherPray together Read your bible together