#18 The Phrases Women Crave to Hear

The phrases that make our whole body melt come from understanding these concepts: Being in/building an intimate relationship with a woman will allow you to see sides of her that many people don’t. Many women have wounding around being seen as “too ________” so when you see the vulnerable parts no one else gets to see, it is a treat. It is a corrective experience for her to feel seen- and even attractive- when she’s not “put together”. Many women struggle to take up “space”, when you open space specifically for her to express herself, she will feel seen and invited to express herself more fully (this is the part of her you will be most attracted to, trust me). When a woman trusts you, she will share more with you. The more you are capable of allowing her to share (what happened in her day, how she’s feeling, a concern she has in regard to your behavior, etc), the more she gets to open up around you. She may not want you to do anything with the information (it’s safe to ask upfront so you don’t get bogged down) in order to win with her. Men are amazing at taking action and problem solving, the challenge you will find in communication occurs when you are using the problem solving when she’s wanting to simply share (the cart is ahead of the horse). Instead, think about what problems you can solve and actions you can take that will make her life easier, and when she’s talking, focus on staying present while she’s trying to connect. Independent women can have a hard time relying on people, when you take action on the items (especially the small ones) she mentions, it creates a sense of safety to share more of her needs with you. This is where your masculine energy gets to shine! Physical intimacy can showcase all of our vulnerabilities. When you understand the perceived risk for her of taking up too much time or being unpleasing, you will be able to support her in receiving more pleasure and provide more connection… with you. Many women will experience a sense of calm when you are able to share with them the impact they have on YOU. This is tied to her sense of safety and not being abandoned (on a deep level). Keeping the communication channel clean keeps her heart open to express her inner world with you. Validating her experience instead of taking it personally is going to help her trust that there isn’t punishment (anger, abandonment, dismissal, etc) when she shares vulnerably. Want more from Courtney? Free Training: How to Speak So Men Can Hear You: www.courtneyschand.com/programs Arise: The Art of Empowerment program: www.courtneyschand.com/arise  Rooted: Building Empowered Relationships (Men's Coaching): www.courtneyschand.com/rooted Ways to work with Court: CourtneySchand.com Want more from Bri? FREE 3 day LIVE masterclass 3.8 through 3.10 on attracting Healthy Love: https://buildingbri.com/HEALTHY-LOVE/ Sign up for Inside Out, The Art and Science of Healthy Relationships + Magnetizing the Divine Masculine: buildingbri.com/insideout/ Website: bulidingbri.com