18. You Get to Be All of It: Belonging, Doubt & the Power of Multiplicity with Jake De La Hoya

In this deeply affirming episode, I’m joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Jake De La Hoya (@jdlhtherapy on Insta), who brings heart, humor, and truth to a conversation that so many of us need to hear — especially those navigating the mental health field, higher education, or identity in transition.Jake shares what it’s been like to hold many parts of himself in spaces that often ask for simplicity — as a therapist, educator, content creator, and human. We talk about imposter syndrome, feeling like you don’t belong, and what it means to be authentic and visible in professional spaces that don’t always make room for complexity.He reflects on the tension between being on-brand and being real, what he tells himself on the hard days, and how he’s come to embrace his full self — both in the therapy room and beyond. With a solution-focused and ACT-oriented approach to his work, Jake also shares meaningful practices that support him in showing up fully.If you’ve ever struggled to “pick a lane,” doubted your value, or felt pressure to perform expertise — this conversation will meet you with permission, perspective, and a deep breath of relief.