181: How to "Feel" Your Way Into Lasting Longer in Bed

Michael's worked with over 1,500 men over the last 7 years helping them to conquer every type of sexual dysfunction they're going through.    One such way sexual dysfunction manifests is with an inability to last longer than 60 seconds during sex. Or premature ejaculation for short.    The problem Michael's stumbled upon, both through his own struggles and with coaching 1,500+ men through it, is that kegels are not enough. Sometimes they can actually make you finish quicker. But the reality is, if kegels solved this problem reliably for men, no man would suffer from finishing too soon.    The real root of the problem is deeper and scarier:    Your nervous system. Modern life is set up in a way that sets everyone at a higher baseline level of the sympathetic nervous system (also known as the fight-flight-freeze response). This naturally lowers how long you last in bed. And then there are other problems like porn, sexual shame, emotional dysregulation, lack of emotional expression, overthinking, and the list goes on.    In other words:    If you struggle with premature ejaculation, you likely think it's a purely physical condition. But Michael's work over the last 7 years shows us that treating it as a purely physical condition sets you up for failure.   That's the bad news.    The good news?   Michael's helped thousands of men like you and he shares some of his top tips in this episode.    Here's what Michael and I discuss:    Why premature ejaculation isn't only a physical issue How your mind hijacks your nervous system and makes you finish faster Why feeling your way into lasting longer is a more effective strategy (and Michael's favorite tools that make this easier)    Other highlights include:    How treating premature ejaculation like a purely physical condition can tighten its grip on your sex life (1:15)  Why kegels can actually make you finish sooner (1:53)  The strange way modern life itself can make you climax faster (and the holistic solution to last longer) (2:46)  The "Pelvic Repatterning Method" Michael Hodge first used on himself, then 1,500 of his students, to reverse their sexual dysfunction (7:50)  How to naturally take the pressure off of sex by engaging the 5 senses (and some of Michael's favorite activities to accomplish this) (19:12)  Why Michael's 8-week "Vigor" program, currently 15% off to the MFY Community - the coupon's in the show notes, can help you last far longer in bed in two short months (and maybe even faster!) (20:22) The biggest mistake men make when they're trying to regulate their nervous system (25:19)  How your intelligence holds you back from healing your emotional gunk that's causing your nervous system to go haywire (27:38)  Guest Bio:   Michael Hodge lived through 5 years of severe pelvic pain, urinary, and sexual issues. By merging his own healing experience with nervous system practices, he is helping thousands of men to transform their pelvic health. He also really likes dark chocolate and produces euphoric dance music.   Resources mentioned in this episode:    1. Transform Men's Pelvic Health Website: https://www.transformpelvichealth.com/   2. Miachel's Vigor Sexual Strength Program (for ED and PE): https://bit.ly/vigorstrongsex      (Use code MANFLOW to save 15% on Michael's Vigor program.)     3. Overcome Pelvic + Urinary Issues Program: https://bit.ly/overcomepelvicpain     4. Follow Transform Men's Pelvic Health on social media:    Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@TransformPelvicHealth    Instagram: @transformpelvichealth   Tik Tok: @transformpelvichealth   5. Man Flow Yoga: Haven't signed up yet? Start your 7-day free trial and see how yoga can eliminate aches and pains better than other types of exercise here: https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7    6. Man Flow Yoga Events: Find the full list of cities we're coming to here: https://manflowyoga.com/man-flow-yoga-events/