181: How to stop people pleasing and start living for you with Riana Malia

Send a textThank you to Timeline for sponsoring this podcast. Powered by Mitopure®, Timeline’s clinically proven Urolithin A gummies are designed to boost energy and support healthy aging at the cellular level. Use code HOTFLASH at timeline.com for 20% off your first order.In this empowering episode of the Hotflash inc podcast, journalist and founder Ann Marie McQueen speaks with Riana Malia, a transformation coach with over 20 years of experience helping ambitious women break free from emotional blocks, unconscious patterns, and limiting beliefs. Riana shares her Clear to Create method, which blends neuroscience, advanced trauma-aware coaching, and energetic techniques like Quantum Time Release to help women shed old stories and reclaim their personal power.We dig into people pleasing, forgiveness, midlife transitions, and why so many of us are unconsciously stuck in survival loops that keep us from fully living. We also discuss how midlife – and perimenopause – can serve as a powerful energetic reset, and what it really takes to step into your next chapter, unapologetically.Highlights4:20 – How childhood conditioning creates the nice girl persona6:50 – What it means to “clear before you can create”8:30 – The cost of repeating old patterns and people pleasing9:45 – What is Quantum Time Release and how does it work?12:15 – Why mindset isn’t enough and the unconscious mind always wins13:45 – Trauma, cycles, and the deep work that actually frees us16:30 – Alchemical forgiveness – what it is and how it sets you free20:00 – How emotional blocks show up physically in perimenopause and menopause22:00 – Stepping into your full power in midlife24:10 – Speaking up at work and at home – and dealing with the fallout26:30 – Reintroducing yourself after transformation29:10 – A dress disaster becomes a metaphor for authenticity32:30 – When you’re done being the one who fixes everything34:30 – You can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created it35:10 – How to work with Riana one-on-one or take her free assessmentRiana Malia is a transformational coach, advanced trauma practitioner, and creator of the Clear to Create method. With over two decades of experience and training in modalities like evolved neurolinguistic programming and Quantum Time Release, she helps ambitious women break free from the emotional and energetic blocks that keep them stuck. Her work blends neuroscience, deep compassion, and intuitive guidance to help clients step into their true power and create the life and love they desire.Where to find RaniaWebsite: https://www.rianamalia.com (currently being relaunched)Take the quiz: https://quiz.rianamalia.com – Find out what’s standing between you and extraordinary loveInstagram: https://instagram.com/rianamaliaJoin the Hotflash inc perimenoposse: Web: hotflashinc.comNewsletter: Hotflash inc. on SubstackTikTok: @hotflashincInstagram: @hotflashincX: @hotflashinc Episode website: Hotflashinc Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Google Podcasts | YouTube | Substack See hotflashinc.com/privacy-policy for privacy information