184. Why Big Goals Can Feel Overwhelming [Workshop]

If the idea of setting big goals this year feels overwhelming, exhausting, or completely out of reach, this episode is for you. For some people, January brings motivation and momentum. For others, it brings heaviness, survival mode, or a quiet realization that they’ve been running on empty for a long time. In this episode, we’re talking about why big goals can feel overwhelming — and what to do instead. Not because you’re lazy.Not because you lack discipline.But because your nervous system may be asking for safety before growth. We’ll explore why depression and survival mode aren’t signs that something is wrong with you, but rather signals — like a check engine light — letting you know that something deeper needs care and attention. I’ll walk you through a gentler, trauma-informed process for beginning the year when motivation is low, including: Why survival mode is a valid starting line How to stop forcing yourself to “start the year strong” The power of allowing your emotions without fear they’ll consume you Creating a very small baseline instead of big goals Letting joy, relief, and what feels fun lead — without “shoulds” And how this season may be pointing you toward deeper healing of unresolved grief, anger, or old emotional wounds. This is a guided experience for people who are tender and need space.  It’s a longer, workshop-style episode designed to be listened to slowly, in one sitting or in parts. And it’s a conversation about permission.Permission to pause.Permission to feel.Permission to meet yourself where you actually are. No hustle, no bypassing, no pressure to be “better.”  Just an honest, compassionate way forward — especially if this season feels heavier than you expected. If you’d like some extra support in this, join me in The Clarity Room: A free live group coaching experience that takes you from Confusion to Clarity. Sunday January 18th, 5pm pst / 8pm est  It’s a gentle, supportive space designed for moments exactly like this — when big goals feel like too much, when you’re in survival mode, or when you know something deeper is asking for your attention, but you don’t want to force or rush the process. Links:  Add The Clarity Room to your calendar (zoom link included) for Sunday Jan 18th. https://evt.to/mq6v6k1ftd86 Schedule your free Clarity Call at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule  Download your free end emotional eating tool: https://download.bodyyoucrave.com/feelings-wheel-sign-up Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillianscoaching Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:19) - How to Set Big Goals When You're Overwhelmed(00:08:22) - Post-Divorce Depression: How to Survive(00:11:01) - How to Reset: Living in Survival Mode(00:18:22) - Emotional Abuse(00:24:09) - Allow Negative Emotions to Exist Without Stopping(00:27:10) - How to Stop Being Negative(00:32:34) - Living in Survival Mode (Step 3)(00:38:08) - How to Raise a Trauma Child(00:42:50) - Step 4: Create a Small baseline(00:45:18) - 5 Steps to Building Joy in Your Life(00:52:07) - How to Let Go of the Timeline of Healing(00:58:23) - How to Heal from a Betrayal(01:02:36) - What is it that's asking for your attention right now?(01:07:31) - Binge Eating and Relationship Cycle Break the Cycle