185: The Scorecard: Why You Keep Score in Relationships (Part 3 of 5): The Nervous System Pattern Quietly Killing Connection

Subscribe to get the free guide: The 5 Relational Patterns That Are Quietly Killing Your ConnectionYou’re not trying to be difficult. You’re trying to feel seen.But somewhere along the way, the relationship started running on a ledger. Who apologized last. Who initiated last. Who gave more. And no matter what your partner does it never quite feels like enough.That’s the Scorecard. And it’s not a fairness problem. It’s a nervous system pattern built around chronic unmet needs.In this episode:* What the Scorecard looks like and why it starts early* Why keeping track feels like protection but functions like a wall* The difference between a legitimate hurt that needs repair and chronic scorekeeping as armor* One question to ask yourself before you reach for the evidenceSubscribe to get the free guide: The 5 Relational Patterns That Are Quietly Killing Your ConnectionWork with Lilly: Book a fit check Get full access to Growth Over Easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe