185. Thrive in Love and Relationships: Honoring Yourself as the Foundation Featuring Colette Jane Fehr

In this powerful episode, we delve into the essential practice of honoring yourself as the bedrock of thriving relationships. Understand why acknowledging and prioritizing your own needs is vital, and how neglecting them can lead to feelings of abandonment and resentment. We offer heartfelt insights and practical strategies to help you stay true to your authentic self while building deep, meaningful connections with others. Learn how to set healthy boundaries and nurture yourself with the respect and love you deserve. Join us on this journey toward creating a life where your relationships are enriched by the unwavering commitment to your own well-being. Colette Jane Fehr is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Nationally Certified Counselor, Author and Speaker. A native New Yorker living in Orlando Florida, she has maintained a successful private practice specializing in couples therapy for more than a decade. She is ICEEFT certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the gold standard in evidenced-based treatment for couples and is the past President of the Central Florida Association for Marriage & Family Therapists (CFAMFT). Her career is dedicated toward helping people improve communication and create more securely attached, emotionally connected relationships. Colette is under contract with Penguin Random House to write a book on relationship communication that will be published in 2025. She is also the co-host of Insights from the Couch: Mental Health at Midlife (www.insightsfromthecouch.org), a podcast that tackles the many unique challenges women face in their 40’s and 50’s—from career demands, to body image, and relationships. She received her undergraduate degree from Tulane University in New Orleans, LA, and completed her graduate work at Rollins College in Winter Park, Florida. On a personal note, Colette has a blended family with two daughters Charlotte and Curran, both in college, her husband Steve, and two adult stepdaughters, Lauren and Lindsey. In her free time she enjoys reading, writing, travelling, meeting interesting people, experiencing new environments, and learning new things. 02:29 Colette's journey of navigating her relationships and helping others 06:01 Attachment styles 13:34 Showing up for yourself in relationships 17:19 Boundaries and why you must choose yourself 25:00 Self-worth 33:10 Red flags and green flags 44:50 Self-reflection in relationships 48:10 A step you can take today 52:24 How to connect with Colette www.colettejaneferh.com www.colettecounseling.com 1) Grab my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FREE Guide Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drkellykessler.myflodesk.com/reclaimpeace⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Reclaim Your Inner Peace: Top Tools for Self-Loyalty and Nervous System Harmony 2) Listen to Rewiring Health Podcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/3rM1DKsaBqjVULP7USFZ9n?si=53ce05f138d54f9f⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rewiring-health/id1627787362⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3) Schedule Your Free Discovery Call This is a free call designed to help you overcome your struggles with self-abandonment and unrelenting stress. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Schedule it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/drkellykessler/discovery⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.optimalyouhealthandwellness.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Socials: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/drkellykessler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drkellykessler⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/drkellykessler