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EPISODE · Apr 2, 2026 · 32 MIN

187. Who Am I? Finding Yourself After Divorce & Betrayal Trauma

from The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse · host Amie Woolsey Certified Brainspotting Practitioner; APSATS-CPC, ICF-PCP,

If you've ever stood in the middle of your new life after divorce and genuinely not known who you are anymore, this episode is for you. Losing yourself in a marriage built on betrayal is not a character flaw — it's what happens when you spend years trying to be enough for someone who was never fully honest with you. In this episode, I walk through what it actually looks like to rebuild your identity after divorce, not by performing a new version of yourself, but by slowly coming back to the one that was always there. I share my own experience of losing myself so completely that my own parents didn't recognize me, and how I started finding my way back through small intentional choices that had nothing to do with anyone else's approval. I also introduce my seven levels of intimacy framework and show you how to flip those inward — because the most important relationship you will ever rebuild after divorce is the one you have with yourself. This is the foundation. Everything else, including dating again, gets built on top of this.______________Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- START TODAY!https://intimacywithin.amiewoolsey.com/intimacy-within-page✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING ⁠https://amiewoolsey.com/amie-woolsey⁠📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ck here to register⁠⁠https://datingfromwithin.amiewoolsey.com/dating-from-within-page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎥 Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolseyNeed support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Musicbed -January 8, 2024The Music Bed, LLC ("MB") approves the use of "Today Will Be The Day - Instrumental" (Composition(s) and Master(s)) for intro"intro" (the "Production") pursuant to your request date January 8, 2024 as follows:SECTION IComposition/Master: Today Will Be The Day - InstrumentalArtist(s): Summer Kennedy

If you've ever stood in the middle of your new life after divorce and genuinely not known who you are anymore, this episode is for you. Losing yourself in a marriage built on betrayal is not a character flaw — it's what happens when you spend years trying to be enough for someone who was never fully honest with you. In this episode, I walk through what it actually looks like to rebuild your identity after divorce, not by performing a new version of yourself, but by slowly coming back to the one that was always there. I share my own experience of losing myself so completely that my own parents didn't recognize me, and how I started finding my way back through small intentional choices that had nothing to do with anyone else's approval. I also introduce my seven levels of intimacy framework and show you how to flip those inward — because the most important relationship you will ever rebuild after divorce is the one you have with yourself. This is the foundation. Everything else, including dating again, gets built on top of this.______________Intimacy Within Self Paced Course- START TODAY!https://intimacywithin.amiewoolsey.com/intimacy-within-page✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING ⁠https://amiewoolsey.com/amie-woolsey⁠📍 Dating From Within Workshop- Get on the Interest List 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ck here to register⁠⁠https://datingfromwithin.amiewoolsey.com/dating-from-within-page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎥 Watch on ⁠YouTube⁠: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolseyNeed support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Musicbed -January 8, 2024The Music Bed, LLC ("MB") approves the use of "Today Will Be The Day - Instrumental" (Composition(s) and Master(s)) for intro"intro" (the "Production") pursuant to your request date January 8, 2024 as follows:SECTION IComposition/Master: Today Will Be The Day - InstrumentalArtist(s): Summer Kennedy

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