189: A Formula to Stop People-Pleasing

You can care deeply about others without abandoning yourself. In this solo episode, Jay explores why so many high achievers struggle with people-pleasing and how this common pattern can quietly lead to stress, burnout, and resentment. Drawing from his own experiences and personal reflections, he explains how our earliest relationships can shape our desire to keep others happy, even at the expense of ourselves. Jay introduces a new framework he calls the Joy Equilibrium, a simple but powerful way to think about balancing giving and receiving. Rather than encouraging listeners to stop caring about others, he explains why lasting fulfillment comes from contributing to the people around you while also creating space to receive joy, rest, and connection. If you've ever found yourself putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own, this episode offers a healthier path forward. Notable Quotes “Don't turn 180 degrees and start being a self-absorbed narcissist. Find the balance.” — Jay Abbasi “Too much giving, and you're going to drain yourself.” — Jay Abbasi “As long as you have a healthy balance of giving and receiving, you'll have the fuel to perform at a high level.” — Jay Abbasi Resources and Links Jay Abbasi Website: https://jayabbasi.me/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayabbasi/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayabbasi_/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejayabbasi/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jayabbasipodcast Join Us Next Time On Monday's episode, you'll meet Sandani, a management accountant who has reached a breaking point. Overwhelmed by stress, pressure, and constant demands, she can barely get out of bed. Jay is joined by Corrie LoGiuidice,, keynote speaker, executive coach, TEDx speaker, and creator of the Five Overwhelm Culprits, to explore how professionals can overcome overwhelm, regain their energy, and move forward with greater clarity and resilience