#189 She Stopped Changing Herself to Be Loved

Today, I interview Riana Malia, who grew up through repeated family breakups, broken promises, and the belief that she had to earn love. The instability left her feeling unsettled, too much in some ways and not enough in others, while also teaching her to become deeply resourceful.Those early beliefs followed Riana through marriage, motherhood, financial hardship, betrayal, and relationships where she tried to manage outcomes and become who others needed her to be. Although she went to therapy, read the books, and talked about her experiences, the anger, sadness, and old story continued to shape her life.Her breakthrough came when she realized that repeatedly telling the same story was keeping her inside it. She learned to stand on her story instead, let go of the belief that she had to beg people to love her, and become the same person in every room. That shift helped her break the cycle of broken promises and create a different life.Today, Riana uses what she has learned to help women stop repeating the relationship patterns that no longer serve them. She helps them get clear about who they are, what they want, and the life and love they want to create.__________________Riana Malia is a Board-Certified Neurosomatic Practitioner, Identity Architect, and private authority for women who have built extraordinary lives and refuse to settle for ordinary love. Her methodology blends neurological rewiring, subconscious reprogramming, and nervous system recoding to address what therapy, retreats, and self-help have not been able to reach.Riana is the creator of the Clear to Create™ Method, which helps women clear old patterns, create aligned beliefs and habits, and claim a new identity. She is also the founder and host of the Brilliance Brunch™, an invitation-only gathering for high-achieving women in the San Francisco Bay Area, and the creator of the Extraordinary Love Index™ (ELI™), an assessment that reveals what may be standing between a woman and extraordinary love.__________________Find Riana here:Website: https://rianamalia.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rianamalia/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@rianamalia LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rianamalia/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RianaMalia/ Substack: https://substack.com/@rianamalia Freebie: https://quiz.rianamalia.com/Support the showI’m Dr. Doreen Downing and I help people find their voice so they can speak without fear. Get the Free 7-Step Guide to Fearless Speaking https://www.doreen7steps.com​.