19: Relationship Agreements for a Hot and Healthy Marriage

In this episode, Ellen Dorian explores the importance of creating clear agreements in relationships, similar to those in business. She explains that while business agreements are formal and explicit, relationship agreements often remain unspoken, leading to misunderstandings. Ellen categorizes agreements into four types: explicit, implicit, unwritten, and assumptive, and discusses how each can impact a relationship. She also provides practical advice on how to create and maintain these agreements to ensure a fulfilling and passionate partnership.Key Topics Discussed:Welcome and Introduction:- Ellen Dorian welcomes listeners and introduces the episode's focus on agreements in relationships.- Emphasizes the importance of clear agreements for a successful and passionate partnership.Types of Agreements:1. Explicit Agreements:- Clearly stated and mutually acknowledged by both partners.- Examples include financial arrangements and household duties.2. Implicit Agreements:- Developed from consistent behaviors or patterns over time without formal discussion.- Example: One partner always cooks while the other does the dishes.3. Unwritten Agreements:- Not explicitly discussed but assumed to be known by both parties.- Example: One partner consistently plans social events.4. Assumptive Agreements:- Based on one partner's uncommunicated expectations.- Example: One partner insists on resolving conflicts immediately, assuming the other shares this belief.Importance of Revisiting Agreements:- Life changes and so do our needs and expectations.- Regularly revisiting and updating agreements can prevent conflicts and keep the relationship aligned with a common purpose.Categories of Agreements:1. Core Relationship Dynamics:- Values and beliefs- Communication- Intimacy- Conflict resolution styles- Decision-making styles- Requests and responsiveness- Investment in the relationship2. Practical Life Management:- Finances- Household responsibilities- Career decisions- Time management- Work and relationship prioritization- Lifestyle and health choices- Parenting styles3. Social and External Factors:- Social media usage- Hot topics (religion, politics, sports)- In-law relationships- Friendships and social circles- Holidays and traditions- Leisure activities and hobbies- Personal growth and developmentLove Agreements:- Introduces the concept of love agreements to inject passion and energy into the relationship.- Encourages positive reinforcement and celebration of successful agreements.Key Takeaways:1. Make More Agreements:- Understanding and creating agreements in your relationship keeps things running smoothly.2. Keep Things Up to Date:- Regularly check in on your agreements to ensure they still work for both partners.3. Add Some Fun:- Consider love agreements to spice things up and keep the emotional connection strong.Call to Action:Key Takeaways:Call to Action:- Join the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook for exclusive content and resources.- Visit the website and social channels for information on programs, workshops, and coaching.- Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen for personalized support.TBDClosing Thoughts:Your relationship is strengthened by the clarity of your agreements and the depth of your connection. By practicing open communication and revisiting your commitments, you can build a partnership that thrives on mutual understanding and passion.Support the Show:- Follow and subscribe to the podcast.- Leave a review to help the community grow.- Share the show with someone who might benefit from it.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.Free Resource: Love Agreement TemplateAll links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianMake More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com