#19: Roy Grant - Patience

Welcome to episode 19 of Edge Within with Mat Davenport.In this grounded and genuine conversation, I sit down with Roy Grant, surfer, builder, founder of Ink & Foam a man who has spent 68 years learning to adapt, stay curious and live with gratitude, to explore what it really means to build a life on your own terms.From navigating multiple father figures and eight different schools to opening a surf shop in his 50s with no roadmap, Roy shares the wisdom of a man who learned everything the hard way. We explore generational programming, the lost art of real communication, health as the foundation of everything, and why purpose doesn't retire when you do.We dive deep into surfing as a teacher of patience, the courage to walk through unknown doors, what healthy masculinity actually looks like, building InConform from passion not profit, grief and death without fear, and why the world needs more honest conversations between generations.This episode is a reminder that it's never too late to begin again, and that the most important things in life are patience, kindness and the guts to be yourself.TOPICS COVEREDSurfing as a life teacher: patience and discomfortThe lost art of dropping in unannouncedGenerational programming and unconscious parentingCovid, sovereignty and critical thinkingThree father figures and a turbulent upbringingMentors who shaped Roy's character and work ethicBuilding InConform: purpose over profitHealthy masculinity and the peaceful warriorGrief, death and the spirit that lives onFatherhood as the greatest rite of passageWalking through the unknown door with pure faithPatience, gratitude and the message to the youngFOLLOWInk and Foam: https://www.instagram.com/inkandfoam.au & https://www.inkandfoam.com/Roy Grant: https://www.instagram.com/surferoy26Edge Within: https://www.instagram.com/edgewithinpodcastMat Davenport: https://www.instagram.com/rawmatdavenportTIMESTAMPS0:00 Welcome to the Chaos: Rolling With It0:55 What Surfing Really Teaches You5:34 Mat on Letting Go of What Isn't for You6:49 Ashes to the Ocean: Life, Death and Reincarnation8:34 The Miracle of You Being Here10:27 An Educated Mind Can Entertain Any Subject12:49 Covid, Coercion and Critical Thinking15:33 Unconscious Parents and the Generational Loop18:27 The Death of Dropping In: Real Communication Is Disappearing21:43 Laid on the Bed and Chose Action Over Self-Pity22:24 If You're Not Yourself You're No One27:49 Leaving School at 15 and Building Anyway43:15 Patriotism, Roots and Belonging52:45 Mentors Who Filled the Father Gap1:00:29 Introducing InConform: The Brand and the Why1:05:02 The Peaceful Warrior: What Healthy Masculinity Looks Like1:10:02 It Keeps Me Alive: Purpose in the Later Chapters1:15:10 Patience, Gratitude, Gut: Message to the Young1:22:16 Facing Death Without Fear1:25:32 Becoming a Father: The Biggest Rite of Passage1:32:22 Yesterday History, Tomorrow Mystery, Today a Gift1:39:09 The Octopus, Blue Zones and Passing Down Knowledge1:50:50 Walking Through the Unknown Door1:52:24 Discipline, Routines and Knowing When to Rest1:53:06 Wrap Up and Gratitude