19: The Lie: I Can’t Be Okay If You’re Not Okay (People Pleasing, Fixing, and Feeling Responsible for Others)

In this episode, Tania explores the quiet belief: If you’re not okay, I can’t be okay.What can look like empathy or support can sometimes be something deeper, a need to fix, soothe, or stabilize others in order to feel settled ourselves.Tania reflects on the internal pull to step in, the relief that comes from helping, and the uncomfortable question that surfaces when she doesn’t:If I’m not fixing this… what good am I right now?This episode unpacks the connection between people pleasing, fixing, and feeling responsible for other people’s emotions, and the identity that can form around being “the one who helps.”It also explores what it actually takes to shift that pattern, not just changing behavior, but learning how to stay grounded when someone you love is not okay.If you’ve ever felt the urge to fix, carry, or take responsibility for someone else’s emotional state, this one might feel familiar.Send me a message