192: What Are You Avoiding?

The distractions aren't the problem. They're symptoms. Meet Fareed. A year ago, he was disciplined. Early mornings. Workouts. Building a side business. Today, he's spending hours scrolling sports news for games he barely cares about while the life he actually wants slips further away. Married with two young children and working as a data manager, he feels disconnected from his goals, his family, and even himself. He tells everyone he's fine, but deep down he's wondering where his drive went, and whether he'll ever get it back. Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Bobby Shelton, executive self-leadership coach, author, and host of The Self Leadership Lab. After transforming his own life through radical honesty, discipline, and self-leadership, Bobby now helps high performers stop performing for everyone else and start becoming the person they truly want to be. Notable Quotes "If you're living for other people, you're never going to serve other people." — Dr. Bobby Shelton "What are you avoiding?" — Dr. Bobby Shelton "I stopped saying, 'I have to.' I started saying, 'I get to.'" — Dr. Bobby Shelton About Our Guest Dr. Bobby Shelton is an executive self-leadership coach, speaker, author, and host of The Self Leadership Lab. Through his coaching, writing, and leadership development programs, he helps individuals strengthen their inner leadership, build lasting discipline, and create meaningful success by aligning their actions with their values instead of external expectations. Resources & Links Dr. Bobby Shelton Website – https://bobbyshelton.substack.com/ Battlecat Coaching Website– https://battlecatcoaching.com/ LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/drbobbyshelton/ YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@TheSelfLeadershipLab Jay Abbasi Website – https://jayabbasi.me/ LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayabbasi/ Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/jayabbasi_/ Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/thejayabbasi/ YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@jayabbasipodcast Join Us Next Time On Friday, Jay introduces a new concept he calls Mindfreeness. While mindfulness helps you become present, mindfreeness helps create the mental space needed for creativity, insight, and better decision-making. You'll learn practical ways to reduce mental clutter, unlock fresh thinking, and create the conditions for your best ideas to emerge. If you've ever felt mentally overloaded or stuck, you won't want to miss this episode.