1KHO 893: The Hidden Cost of Holding Everything Together | Dr. Alison Cook, The Secure Soul

Being the person who holds everything together can often look like strength but sometimes you’ve lost yourself along the way. Dr. Alison Cook joins Ginny Yurich for a fascinating conversation about the inner patterns that drive us to overfunction, rescue, please, perfect, compare, and keep going even if some resentment has crept in. Drawing from her fantastic new book, The Secure Soul, Alison explains the “controller” and “shadow” parts of ourselves, why old experiences of rejection and not belonging can still shape our reactions decades later, and how to notice the bids for connection coming from within instead of shaming or ignoring them. They also talk about friendship, parenting teenagers, loneliness, dating, the healthy dance between closeness and independence, and why play and fun matter more than we think. Learn to answer the question: Is this actually mine to carry? Learn more about Dr. Alison Cook and grab your copy of The Secure Soul !! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices