2. Too Much and Not Enough - Why You Always Feel Like the Problem

Ever felt like you’re both too much and not enough at the same time? Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about the painful contradiction of being told you’re “too much” and still feeling like you’re never enough.We explore how those mixed messages shape our self-worth, why so many of us end up shrinking ourselves to fit, and how to start unravelling the shame spiral that says you’re the problem.This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): being told we’re too quiet, too sensitive, too needy, too bossy, too weird.👀 What it looks like in real life: fake laughing to fit in, replaying conversations in your head, people-pleasing, perfectionism, or hiding your true opinions.🧠 Why our brains do it: childhood messages, survival strategies, generational patterns, and our wiring for connection and safety.🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: overachieving, withdrawing, overexplaining or desperately trying to “get it right.”🧰 Coping mechanisms: numbing with scrolling, saying yes when you mean no, over-planning or editing yourself to feel acceptable.🌱 How to make peace with it: Realising your needs aren’t “too much” - they just might be more than someone else can handle, and that doesn’t make you the problem.Thanks for listening           💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram: @toomuchapparently → TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com👩‍💻 Carly Radford: → Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: [email protected] 🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.—--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, perfectionism podcast, therapy podcast, anxiety podcast, emotional podcast, mental health podcast, deep chat podcast, neurodivergent podcast, autism podcast, adhd podcast, audhd podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast