EPISODE · Jun 26, 2021 · 1H 4M
#20 Games People Play (Eric Berne, 1964)
from Will & Luke Discuss · host Will & Luke Discuss
From Eric Berne's seminal book 'Game People Play', we look at the ways in which people communicate and structure time through social intercourse and 'Games'. We explore our human needs for Stimulus, Recognition and Structure hunger, and how we utilise ego states (Parent, Adult or Child) and systems of structuring time (Rituals, Pastimes, Activities, Games or Intimacy) to get these needs met. We then explore how to interact with more intimate and authentic communication, sharing our inner life candidly, without utilising avoidance strategies. This was all really interesting. Hope you enjoy. Will & Luke 00:00 Introductions 2:45 'Games' and 'Strokes' (Also, Time Structuring - Withdrawal, Rituals, Pastimes, Activity, Games & Intimacy) 6:50 What is a 'game' - ongoing ulterior transactions, well defined and predictable outcomes. Professional games and social games. 08:15 'Strokes' - through social intercourse we crave - Stimulus hunger, Recognition hunger and Structure hunger) and Pastimes (structured interval of time) 15:15 Ego States - Coherent system of behaviour patterns and feelings (Adult -critical or nurturing, Parent, Child - adaptive or free) 22:15 Complimentary and crossed transactions 28:43 Types of Games (Interior motives vs exterior communication) 45:45 Authentic communication through different ego states 53:50 Psychiatry 1:05:00 Final reflections Purchase the book at: http://www.ericberne.com/games-people-play/ This specific episode can also be seen on: https://youtu.be/B7_khM4I704 Check our Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Y_SKLFpax13442jA3giaw/videos Listen to us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R1BRcriKWcvOU1XMJQhyW Listen to us on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/will-luke-discuss/id1572512365 Listen to us on Google Podcasts: https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy81Zjk2YTNmYy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw== Also available on: Anchor, Breaker, Pocket Casts, Radio Public.
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From Eric Berne's seminal book 'Game People Play', we look at the ways in which people communicate and structure time through social intercourse and 'Games'. We explore our human needs for Stimulus, Recognition and Structure hunger, and how we utilise ego states (Parent, Adult or Child) and systems of structuring time (Rituals, Pastimes, Activities, Games or Intimacy) to get these needs met. We then explore how to interact with more intimate and authentic communication, sharing our inner life candidly, without utilising avoidance strategies. This was all really interesting. Hope you enjoy. Will & Luke 00:00 Introductions 2:45 'Games' and 'Strokes' (Also, Time Structuring - Withdrawal, Rituals, Pastimes, Activity, Games & Intimacy) 6:50 What is a 'game' - ongoing ulterior transactions, well defined and predictable outcomes. Professional games and social games. 08:15 'Strokes' - through social intercourse we crave - Stimulus hunger, Recognition hunger and Structure hunger) and Pastimes (structured interval of time) 15:15 Ego States - Coherent system of behaviour patterns and feelings (Adult -critical or nurturing, Parent, Child - adaptive or free) 22:15 Complimentary and crossed transactions 28:43 Types of Games (Interior motives vs exterior communication) 45:45 Authentic communication through different ego states 53:50 Psychiatry 1:05:00 Final reflections Purchase the book at: http://www.ericberne.com/games-people-play/ This specific episode can also be seen on: https://youtu.be/B7_khM4I704 Check our Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Y_SKLFpax13442jA3giaw/videos Listen to us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2R1BRcriKWcvOU1XMJQhyW Listen to us on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/will-luke-discuss/id1572512365 Listen to us on Google Podcasts: https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy81Zjk2YTNmYy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw== Also available on: Anchor, Breaker, Pocket Casts, Radio Public.
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