#20 Intimacy After 40: Dr. Tara Explains Sex, Confidence, and Connection

In this episode of What She's Having, Jennifer and Britney welcome Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, a leading sex educator and relationship expert, for a candid, playful, and deeply informative conversation about intimacy, desire, and foreplay—especially after 40. Dr. Tara breaks down why foreplay is often misunderstood, why it looks very different for women and men, and why reframing foreplay as "all play" can completely transform connection, communication, and pleasure in long-term relationships. This episode blends humor, honesty, and science-backed insights into what actually creates desire, how emotional connection plays a major role in arousal, and why slowing down may be the fastest way to spark intimacy. If you've ever felt disconnected, rushed, or confused about what you or your partner really need—this conversation will change how you think about sex. 🎧 New episode drops Wednesdays  Episode Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome to the show & meeting Dr. Tara 00:03 – "Are you having an orgasmic day?" (setting the tone 😏) 00:09 – No foreplay needed… or is it? 00:12 – "This is foreplay" 00:15 – Why foreplay is all play 00:18 – Foreplay as a non-negotiable 00:21 – "Foreplay is the main course" 00:24 – Why foreplay needs a total rebrand 00:28 – How foreplay differs for women vs. men 00:34 – Emotional connection vs. physical arousal 00:40 – Why desire changes with age 00:46 – Communication mistakes couples make around intimacy 00:52 – Rewriting the rules for pleasure after 40 00:58 – Final thoughts + takeaways Guest Information: Dr. Tara Name: Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn Title: Sex Educator, Relationship Expert & Author 📍 Connect with Dr. Tara Instagram: @luvbites.co Website: https://www.luvbites.co TikTok / YouTube: @luvbitsexed 📘 Book by Dr. Tara Sexual Communication for Couples A practical, modern guide to improving intimacy through honest communication, emotional safety, and deeper connection—perfect for long-term partners and couples navigating intimacy changes over time. Podcast: What She's Having 🎙️ Hosts: Jennifer & Brittney 📸 Instagram: @officialwhatsheshaving 🎧 Available on: Apple Podcasts, Spotify & YouTube Follow the show: @officialwhatsheshaving Rate & review: Apple Podcasts + Spotify (it helps more than you know!) Share with a friend who's ready to feel better, sleep deeper, and glow from the inside out.