20. Modern Dating, Nervous System Regulation & Finding Secure Love with Sarah Harkness

Modern dating can feel like a full-body stress response… and if you’ve ever confused anxiety for attraction or felt exhausted by dating apps, this episode is for you.Elizabeth is joined by Sarah Harkness, founder of Austin Elite Matchmaking and creator of The Frequency of Love method. Together, they dive into what’s actually happening in the dating world right now—and why so many high-functioning women feel overwhelmed, burnt out, or stuck in the same relationship patterns.Sarah shares how her personal experiences with heartbreak, unhealthy relationships, and healing led her to blend psychology, nervous system regulation, and matchmaking into a completely different approach to love.This episode is a powerful reminder that the relationship you’re calling in is deeply connected to how safe you feel within yourself.Why modern dating feels so overstimulating, fast-paced, and disconnectedThe difference between chemistry vs. nervous system activationHow attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, disorganized) show up in datingWhy “butterflies” might actually be a stress response—not attractionWhat healthy attraction really feels like (and why it can feel… boring at first)How dating apps can amplify nervous system dysregulationThe concept of The Frequency of Love and how your internal state shapes who you attractWhy self-awareness and regulation matter more than strategyHow to date more intentionally (without burning out)The role of community, connection, and real-life interactions in finding a partnerWebsite: https://www.austinelitematchmaking.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/austin.elite.matchmakingTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@austin.elite.matchmakingIf this conversation resonated with you, share it with a friend or tag me on Instagram—I love hearing what lands for you 🤍Connect with Elizabeth: 💻 https://www.elizabethalicellc.com/ 📸 @elizabethalicerd on Instagram 💌 Subscribe to Vitality Vignette for cozy wellness musingsNow on TikTok! The High Functioning Hot Mess💫 What We Talk About🔗 Connect with Sarah🎧 Loved this episode?