20. Too Tired to Transform - “New Year, New Me” Fatigue and the Myth of the Fresh Start

Ever hit January feeling like you should be setting goals… but you’d rather hibernate? Yeah. Us too.In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) talk about what happens when New Year, new me culture collides with exhaustion, perfectionism, and the pressure to always be improving.We explore why so many of us begin the year already running on empty — and how to approach change gently, without the shame, guilt, or burnout spiral that comes with “failing” your resolutions.This time we talked about: 🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): guilt about not setting goals, the urge to buy four planners, and wondering why everyone else seems motivated when you’re just tired. 👀 What it looks like in real life: forcing positivity, overcommitting, chasing transformation when you actually need rest. 🧠 Why our brains do it: the “fresh start” effect, perfectionism, capitalism, and the illusion of control that planning gives us. 🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻The different ways it shows up: rigid goal-setting, self-shaming, comparing, and turning on yourself instead of staying with yourself. 🧰 Coping mechanisms: gentler intentions, flexible goals, curiosity, and permission to pause. 🌱 How to make peace with it: maybe you don’t need to become a new you — just stay with yourself as you already are.Thanks for listening. 💛💜🩷🩵🧡💬 New episodes every Monday. 🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.🧡 CONNECT WITH US 🎙️ Podcast socials: → Instagram + TikTok: @toomuchapparently → YouTube: Too Much, Apparently → Website: www.toomuchapparently.com👩‍💻 Carly Radford:→ Website: www.carlyradford.com → Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew: → Website: www.alicetew.com → Instagram: @reparentingwithalice📩 Email us: [email protected] 🗓️ New episodes every MondayThis is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.Disclaimer: This podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or support service near you.--------------------------------- new year burnout podcast, perfectionism podcast, sensitivity podcast, overthinking podcast, therapy podcast, goal setting podcast, rest podcast, mental health podcast, neurodivergent podcast, burnout recovery podcast, self compassion podcast, Too Much Apparently podcast, healing podcast, slow living podcast