20. What Do You Ask Your Child When They Come Home From Shul?

What happens when a child goes to shul… but never develops a taste for tefillah?In this deeply honest episode of Know Your Children, Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David explore the tension every parent feels between obligation and connection. Is “good chinuch” just getting children to sit quietly in shul — or helping them discover something that genuinely touches their soul?Through the lens of chush ha’ta’am — a child’s inner sense of taste and emotional connection — this shiur opens up difficult but essential questions about parenting, authenticity, fear, and what children actually experience when they walk into a beit knesset.Along the way, Rav Shlomo speaks about compliments, expectations, honesty in religious life, the emotional memory of shul, and why the question “How was davening?” may not be enough.----------For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.comJoin Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_tCHAPTERS00:00 Sponsorship and Dedication for the Shiur01:01 Humility Needed in Parenting Approaches02:46 Introducing Chush HaTa’am Concept in Parenting04:26 Taking Children to Shul: The Routine05:35 Assessing the Child’s Reaction After Shul08:30 When Kids Can Read Yet Miss the Meaning10:48 Probing the Real Source of Shul Enjoyment21:18 Role of Compliments in Encouraging Shul Attendance23:24 Why Kids Need a Taste for Prayer24:50 Balancing Obligations and Personal Experience26:20 Adults Also Struggle with Shul Attendance30:25 Modeling Joy in Shul for Kids35:04 Unrealistic Expectations for Young Children40:26 Honesty About Personal Shul Struggles43:51 Fear vs. Authentic Parenting in Religion45:10 When Answers Aren’t Satisfying46:23 Isidor Rabi’s Deep Question to Children47:35 Creating Spaces for Children’s Insight49:37 Authenticity and Consistency Across Life51:08 Modern Orthodoxy Identity Split52:30 Family Tradition of Sitting Together54:00 Changing Seats After Mourning55:16 Rashi’s Query on Recounting Names