206. Songs That Heal: A Divorce Recovery Conversation with Singer-Songwriter Brian Wolff

This episode welcomes guest Brian Wolff, a singer-songwriter based here in Austin Texas who I discovered in the most Austin way possible: playing live at the farmers market on a Saturday morning. One particular song stopped me in my tracks, and I knew I had to have him on.We talk through two of his songs together, line by line, and explore how they connect to the work of healing from betrayal trauma and divorce, even though that's not where they originally came from.What we cover:How Brian uses songwriting as his own form of therapy and processingWhy "judging only by what they can see" hits so hard for anyone who's divorced someone who still wears the nice guy mask in publicThe exhausting, very real frustration of post-separation abuse and people who don't understand what's happening underneath the surfaceA second song about loving someone who's stuck and wanting so badly to help them let go, including the radical acceptance of having to let go of trying to make someone else let goThe "cracked mirror" image and how the people we love can plant ideas in our heads about who we areThe shift from "I want you to heal" to "we want you to heal," and what that says about community and being seenHope, even in the hard stuff. That's the thread running through everything Brian writes, and it's the thread I hope runs through this whole season._______________________https://www.brianwolffmusic.com/about@brianwolffmusicSpotify: Brian Wolffhttps://open.spotify.com/artist/5tW2IMfCtMzMHLij0PlQht?si=Zx3kEw4BT4uMcSvwKmNksQ✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amiewoolsey.com/amie-woolsey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Video Series "Am I In An Abusive Relationship"⁠ :You will receive an email containing videos that guide you through the 8 domains of a relationship and explore potentially destructive dynamics you may be experiencing.Each video includes a worksheet to help you reflect on your lived experience and gain greater clarity and understanding of your reality.Please note: the email subject line will not include the word "abuse."https://amiewoolsey.com/am-i-in-an-abusive-relationship📍 Dating From Within Workshop- June 11th-13th 👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Cli⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ck here to join interest list⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://datingfromwithin.amiewoolsey.com/dating-from-within-page⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💬 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Empowered Divorce Q&A⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.👣 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Body Love Class⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Start by taking the quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more + enroll⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎥 Watch on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolseyNeed support ?📩 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Musicbed -January 8, 2024The Music Bed, LLC ("MB") approves the use of "Today Will Be The Day - Instrumental" (Composition(s) and Master(s)) for intro"intro" (the "Production") pursuant to your request date January 8, 2024 as follows:SECTION IComposition/Master: Today Will Be The Day - InstrumentalArtist(s): Summer Kennedy